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Toxic People

What is a toxic person?

To me, a person who is toxic causes a lot of conflict in your life. They are difficult to deal with. These people can create lots of stress, emotional and maybe even psychical pain. Their behavior adds negativity to your life. A person with toxic traits may behave in a way that's hurtful and damaging to those around them. Their actions, words, and energy might affect others negatively - whether they realize it or not. (I feel like they be knowing though).

At some point in your life, you may encounter someone with these types of traits. It could be a friend, significant other, sibling, or even your parents. The closer your relationship is with this person, the harder it can be to identify just how unhealthy their behavior and actions are. We don't want to believe the person we love and care about would act that way toward us, and that is what makes it so hard.

Many times, toxic people are dealing with their trauma. They either don't know how to deal with it so they try to dump it off on you, or use that as an excuse to treat people like shit. They would rather be a shitty person than work on themselves. Helping them is not an option because they would take it for granted and just use you. You usually have to let these people figure it out on their own.

While you may care for them, or even love them, you can't be a pawn in their little game. You cannot just sit around and take the mental abuse that comes with it. Pay attention to the signs they portray and act accordingly. Do not sit around and do nothing. You deserve better.

Signs of Toxic People

The effects of this behavior can do a number on you. Having any type of relationship with a person who exhibits toxic traits can have some damaging effects on your well-being. You wouldn't even be the same person you were before it all started, especially if you have been dealing with it for years.

The manipulation, judgment, and isolation you might be experiencing at the hands of this person can lead to:

a lack of self-worth

damaged relationships with others

a loss of enjoyment in things you once loved

development of a mental health condition

Now you must know how to deal with this person. I will give you just a few things to try & you do what best works for you. It's not always easy, it is a process. Then you also have to consider the fact that a person might not be as confident as they once were before. That also prolongs the process.

Here are some ways to try to deal with toxic behavior:

set and enforce clear boundaries

discuss the negative behavior you've noticed following the behavior

focus on personal healing and self-care

identify and explore your role in their actions

maintain healthy and supportive relationships with others

However, if the toxic behavior continues and does no good for your well-being, it is time to end the relationship with whoever that person is. Dealing with all of this can leave a mark on a person, so talking to a professional (or someone you trust), self-care days, or just getting back into things that use to make you happy is a start. Be gentle with yourself & take it one day at a time.

Q1) Do you currently have any toxic people in your life? Who? (it's okay if you don't want to say)

Q2) Did you use to have any toxic people in your life? Who? How did you get out of that?

Q3) Are you toxic?

Q4) Did you use to be toxic? What made you want to change?

Q5) What would you do if you found yourself in a toxic situation?

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