Introduction: What happens when you have toxic people in your life? It causes chaos within your realm of happiness, pain and hurt. It is a dark cloud when there are sunny skies, and you engulf yourself in the why and why not, how comes. This is not healthy for anyone, especially when it's a sibling or mother or father that is toxic, that is the worst and ultimate pain. Friends come and go, there is real ones and fake ones. It's better to have one true friend, then a whole bunch of fake ones. Toxic people are bottom feeders, they are pond scum, and the sad thing is some don't even realize what they are doing, or that they are narcissistic person. They are blind to their own toxicity, poison spews from their mouths like the flow of a mighty river, eyes cut like razors, and they only hear what they choose to believe or think what the issue is, which is usually their own agenda. What is the solution? The answer is, DIVORCE, yes you can divorce a toxic family or friends. It can be hard, but it can be as easy as you make it, by asking some questions, Do I want a healthy life and keep my sanity? Do I want to continue to be hurt, or take the blame for an issue, or why should I suffer any more for something I didn't do. No one wants to be treated second best and like an outcast, for something they have no clue as to why, or better yet drummed out of another's life or disowned.
Chapter 1: What is a Toxic family Member or friend: A toxic family member comes in many guises, a mother, a sister, a brother or a father, in-laws, even cousins, there is no boundaries. Let's start with a toxic mother, they take things out on the eldest because they are there, they maybe didn't want you, in the first place. She might do or say things that is abusive, calling you names, throwing you against a wall, locking you outside, or even embarrass you in front of friends. She does this because she has a disease, a disease usually that is handed down from her own mother, the way she was raised, things she can use as an excuse to exhaust her authority and be dominant in the upbringing, of a child, then uses her reasons as "I am only protecting you." This is not justifiable protection in any case, it is gross abusive behavior, and could be she was abused by her mother, abuse comes in several forms. A toxic mother also uses a child as a scapegoat, someone to take the blame, for everything that goes wrong, and the other sibling doesn't get blamed at all. Another form of a toxic person is other family members that side with the toxic clan, they scheme and lie, and do not recognize the truth, they make up their own realities and truths to make you look bad. Friends, that are shallow, and follow every trend and lie for other friends, and talk behind another's back is not friend, they too scheme and lie to wither get their way, or they just plain have no use for you. They tend to lie about they the same things, then make everything about them, and you're the one at fault for calling them on it and they never admit they are wrong. When a family member tells another family member their sister or brother has been disowned by their father, and for no reason at all, and they continue to lay on this for years, before the sibling even finds out, it's time to realize that person is no longer the person you want in your life. A Toxic family or friends is unhealthy, and the sooner it recognized the better for you, your health can be at stake, your piece of mind, and your very being. When narcissistic toxic people don't even realize they are that is even more dangerous, especially when they believe they are the victim, and they play it at every turn, even blog it on the web, and tell it to others, they take what is not theirs and make trouble for you. Its double trouble when you have a mother and sister that is the toxic twins, and they include other family members in the circle of crow flies. They snicker, laugh, and poke untruths, among each other, and again take no blame for what they are doing. Recognizing this can be a trial. As you read more, how to divorce a toxic family becomes clearer to the reader, and many can learn from this. Greed is also a big player in a toxic family, the more money one has the more they covet and want, never mind the bequests of their mother or father. Take for example a family member explicitly leaves you an inheritance in their will, and you get copies in the mail, that their daughters or sons left you out of it, that they contested it, and gave it all away to another family member, that really didn't need all of it, and her own daughter squandered it. This too is toxic behavior, and to brag and brag "look at my ring, it was part of my inheritance, greed runs deep in many families and money can create the biggest monsters, they walk, and run over the little person to get where they are, they run corrupt business, by selling barely working cars, even to family, and open more shotty businesses, they climb to the top not my a ladder of success, but float higher and higher on the pond scum they create, then when you call them out, you're the bitch, and problem, they don't see that they are the ones that live by their money, and makes it talk, while spewing their bullshit. I speak from experience when I use this as example, people that haven't spent time with each other in years or have no contact then cry the blues when that person dies, is a hypocrite, and sad person. There is a poem by Clare Harner, everyone should read.
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Divorcing A Toxic Family and Friends
Non-FictionA short book, that tells a story of a toxic family and friends, divorce isn't easy, and most people think of it between a man and woman. But you can divorce your family and friends, it's hard, but it can be done, divorcing a toxic family it's not on...
