Divorcing A Toxic Family and Friends

When a family member or sister has secrets

Shouse! I have a secret, I don't want to clue you in, I don't want to include you, you are nothing to me, and never have been, I hide myself behind a mask, I am phony, I pretend to be something I am not, I lie to myself and others, lie to my mother and older sister, I have many secrets. This is a toxic and narcissist of the worst kind, my sister, she is a sneak, and a liar, she hides the truth, she thinks she is so privileged she has to hid who she is, hide form me, this has been the way even when we were kids, even when I slapped her around for being a bitch, she learned nothing, I got tired of her, being mean and cruel to me, and as we got older it just has gotten worse. recently I called her hand on something, she thinks she was being slick, now she figured how to block her Instagram completely, so I cannot see what he is posting, years ago she blocked me from Facebook, when I had a Facebook, why because she didn't like what I had to say, she didn't like what I saw, the real her, posting her stupid selfies and following trends, or was it, I knew she carried on an internet affair with two men behind her husband's back, of course these two men, in her mind, she thought was interested in more than just being friends, I blocked both these men, the minute the one tried hitting on me, they were jerks, but did she believe me no, she has an ego that won't quit, and lies to herself, of course this was when her husband was carrying on a 20 year affair with some pond scum whore. Did my sister ever come to me for help, really? No, she never asked, she did not want to hear the truth, nor could she stand the shit she was stirring, by her own hand. She continues to stir the shit pot, with posts and pictures, and words that are stupid garble. Point is she is jealous and envious, and always has been resentful towards me, she cannot stand on her own two feet and uses her sons as a crutch, they are grown men still living at home and being babied by her, hell she might as well wipe their asses. She does not know the meaning of the word cut the apron strings, my mother makes excuses, the last conversation with my mother wanted to make me puke, nothing but digs, and nastiness towards me, I couldn't even say a word back or in my defense that my mother doesn't lay a trip saying "oh there you go again barking at people" which is untrue, she can't stand that I have learned to stick up for myself, and stand up for myself. Recently she had a chest freezer sent from Home Depot, to me, so what is that a message she and my family is still freezing me out, probably, when I told her, I don't have the room for one. She and my sister has frozen me out for years, not including me in anything, not letting me know things. My sister is very greedy, and selfish, when our mother dies, she will keep all the jewelry for herself, she is no different that certain cousins in the family, and her son, well he gets everything, like all the cuff links that was my fathers, not even a sister sit down to divide equally, my sons were given the unwanted scraps, and to top it off the pieces I bought my father never came back to me, GREED that is what my sister is about, and what makes me sick, she hides, it, very well, by laying the innocent, and broadcasts to everyone in the family that I am the greedy one, when I have never been greedy in my life. I learned early on in child what it means to share, but no one shared with me, and I was always who I was and still am, I don't hide, behind masks of deceit. My sister went around telling everyone my father disowned me, well here Is a news flash, I DISOWN HER, SHE IS NO SISTER OF MINE. She has never given willingly, she has never given without strings attached, and honestly given me junk, like a pair of shoes she colored purple with paint, I had to throw them away, considering the stained my feet, and her junky hats, with crap glued on them. She has always tried to follow me as an artist and borderline copying me, she has always done this. But the secrets she keeps is worst of all, she cannot for once in her life be honest, she posts pictures on social media, that has no business on their, lies about her drinking. and when I have told our mother, of course I am made out to be the liar. well, we could have been friends, little sister, not now, a certain cousin in northern California is your sista , as you call her, as for that little bitch, I haven't spoke to her, for years, and I won't, both her and her mother are toxic.

Over the years one can busy themselves, sure with the house, and kids, and such, but to use it as an excuse all the time, not to pick up the phone and call another family member, is inexcusable and unfair, especially when the kids are grown, to have your own mother babysit boys that are 14, and 13, and on up is sick. Then to make these same excuses for not coming over or to hang out. The sad thing is my mother makes these excuses as well, "oh she is busy with the house, and the kids, and doing work for her husband," please! give me a break, and I love the fact that my mother backs her up even if she is wrong, "oh how your sister is so over worked, and she is a good mother," well a good mother doesn't leave her 6-month-old baby with her mother while she is out doing who knows what.

Secrets, secretive sister is a selfish sister, she steals, she spews poison, and she is jealous, toxicity, at its worst, and most people that are mean, and selfish, are sad indeed, they lie themselves as well as others, they push away the truth like they push away a sibling or daughter, and once your pushed to many times, there is no going back, like it is the way with my sister and mother, they have pushed me to my limits, pushing me away, hiding their dirty little secrets, not letting me in on anything, why, because they are toxic. My sister doesn't want me to see she is cold, mean, toxic, bitch, that is so selfish, and self-centered. She doesn't realize that I have known this our whole lives.