Divorcing A Toxic Family and Friends

Pond Scum Disguised as friends and family.

Divorcing a toxic family, is one that everyone, should consider, if they have a family like mine, America, is spoiled, and full of families that doesn't know the true meaning of family, The Chinese revere their elders, and some countries extended families live together. In Israel people live in kubutz, and some tribal lands some groups live in huge huts. One can only take some much from a toxic sibling, a sister that is resentful, hateful, and mean, she will tell everyone that your mentally ill, while she makes herself look squeaky clean.

"Beware of Greeks bearing gifts, ", their wolves in sheep's clothing", a true friend is rare", and blood is not thicker than water, all these old sayings are true today as when they were new, and unfortunately, too many people do not heed the warning. How many times you need to be kicked in the face before you say," enough is enough"? How many times, do you have to get kicked in the ass, before you say, "no more"? Once should be enough, but as humans we try to forgive and forget, but we can't always do that when it happens over and over. You take a friend, of your sister, a real piece of work, a scammer, a fraud and stealer of work, a woman that is as stupid as she looks, and a follower to boot, a subculture queen, that thinks she lives in the past, a real nasty person, but your sister doesn't care because she is just like her, cruel to the core. Pond scum comes in all disguises, and maybe that's why certain husbands cheat, I have an ex-sister-in-law and she was never there for her ex -husband, he cheated, but he is a different kind of pond scum, and all pond scum surfaces to the top, to by skimmed off and thrown away. People that are nice to your face, and stab you in the back, are nothing better than low life's. True colors eventually show up in one form or another, even a mother, or a sister, or a friend, shows their true colors when the chips are down, or up, depending which way you look at it, you contact a friend because her father died, to give condolences, though it's been over 11 years, and still does not acknowledge it, why because your own sister has said stuff behind your back, what, I do not know, but eventually all comes out in the wash, and truth revealed. Jealous people tend to rear their ugly heads, in all forms, a blog perhaps, a rumor, through a mutual acquaintance, an ex-sister-in-law, why because there in her circle, and transparent. Little pictures here and there, notes, old drawings, messages, to an aunt and uncle, pictures to cover up tracks, you name it, I can see the transparency, my sister and her certain friend and this one I speak of is poison, and a user, a schemer and pond scum. I have been able to see through these disguises for a long time, even when you confront, they deny, my sister is one of these and that is why I choose to stay out of touch with her, I ow no apology, for anything I have said in the past, I am only standing up for myself and protecting myself, and if that makes me mentally ill, as my sister has put it to her fucked up friend, then she can go fuck herself. I am far from mentally ill; I am the sanest person in my family. A cousin of mine always said the family has dysfunctional members, including her own sister and mom, and her mom was a mean, bitch. My sister and some of the family prefers to run with corruption, Ido not, they think they are not, but when you accept certain lifestyles, and things that are going on that you know is wrong, then what do they think they are, certainly not a saint. But some like to hide behind the church's skirts, light a candle and everything is ok, there mucky muck Catholics, or Baptists, or whatever they like to call themselves religiously speaking. Hypocrites, one in particular, my cousin in Northern California, and her parents, big time, but my sister and mother look over what they have done to me, even when I was backing them up years ago, I have taken and taken, and apologized in the past, and for what, they still freeze me out, and have done for many years, I only just realized I am the better one, for not taking it anymore. So at least I don't stay in a marriage thought unhappy, and use the excuse it's for the kids, when those kids are adult men, I mean cut the apron strings, cut the cord already, and frow the fuck up. As for me protecting my work, my art, I will always do that and I pity those if they try and take it, by copying me, or crowding me, or stealing my thunder, I will not turn over and accept the fact, that I should give up anything to a piece of shit friend of my sisters. for over 18 years she has done nothing by ride coattails of others, maybe that's why they get along, they both ride the coattails of real artists. It takes more to be a writer, artist or even dancer, then to call yourself one, it takes years of honing your craft, and working hard, month after month and year after year improving it. The saddest thing is if they feel they have to steal from a real artist, then they will never amount to anything. Remember in the big scheme of things, pond scum floats on top of the water for an only a short time, eventually gets skimmed away. 

So, in addition to divorcing a toxic family, divorce the friends that tag along, and wreak havoc, in your life, ignore them and don't fall for their shit. And always protect what you work hard for in life, no one can take away that, or your right to be happy, no matter who they are.