Red Flag

Headmate Relations Part 1

  Fun fact about me: I am a system of over 20 headmates. All of them have some sort of relation to Jay, good and/or bad. A few agreed to share their experiences interacting with Jay, which will be split into parts. Please respect their presence and statements as they are human too.

Headmate: Laura
Age: 25
Pronouns: She/Her

My first impression of Jay when he and Sawyer first met wasn't bad. I liked that Sawyer had found a new friend. Me and the other headmates trusted Jay when he would be there as a support for Jay when he was forced to leave a partner he cared about and especially when they started dated.
The distrust started the summer they got together. In a server that Sawyer was part of, Jay said to friends in a passing discussion that he thought, "Asian women were goddesses and if he wasn't with Sawyer, he'd try to get with one". To this day, I remember how upset Sawyer was reading that. He has self esteem issues and to see Jay send that put a dent in it more.
It was during the second break up the two encountered when I started to hate Jay. Sawyer wanted to see if Jay could make him hate him (which is funny because now her hates him), and Jay admitted to not being loyal. Jay told him that he went to Bebe's house (keep in mind, this was before the forced open relationship) and banged her, saying he was HIGH, because he felt like he wasn't getting enough and his body naturally went to where he felt was enough. This is exactly what Sawyer feared and it's been mentally traumatizing him until he finally broke up with Jay.
Jay may be the reason why I got my first headmate husband, but it doesn't excuse the hell he put Sawyer in. If I could, I'd put Jay in his place for the mistreatment. Me fronting and talking to him only made my blood boil as much as it did when he'd mention Bebe. Thank God he left, he deserves better.