The rambling of a writer

abs...olutely not...

"When he lifted his shirt she was a goner. Those delicious, mouth watering abs all on display. She knew he was toned, but oh man did he deliver!"


"It was not like they worked out much... Just some casual running and occasionally hitting the gym. But by the look of it it seemed like the blocky chocolate factory had done its thing with the eightpack they were rocking!"


"She was hiding her unflattering tummy from them. No, she wasn't that pretty! Look! Her stomach was squishy even though the outlines of her abs were protrudent under the softness there."


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Abs...

Why are we so obsessed with them?! 

To the point where no smut scene is safe without the author making the main character gush over the chocolate goodies of its partner.

Sure thing, abs can be pretty/alluring/sexy and whatnot, but it seems like people think it's THE staple of a good looking body!

*cough* biology lesson here:

Did you know that we all have abdominal muscles? Okay, no shit sherlock, but seriously: Did you know that it depends on genetics how many abs you have?

Like, the Rectus Abdominis is the muscle that can be divided in blocks that we see as abs. But we all have the capacity to have eight or even ten blocks! And on the other side, there are people who just have four or even two of those blocks, thus making it imposible for them to gain that media-hyped 'sixpack' of abs!

So... WHY ABS!? 

I mean, they look great when they're trained, with less fat tissue over it and preferably with a male body. (Hey, I'm just expressing general preferances. You do you cutie)
But seriously, they are THE MOST MISLEADING bodypart in order to find an attractive partner!

Why? Because it needs LOTS of maintenance to maintain those muscles. And yeah, your boo/bae/bias etc can be looking great right now... what remains when they stop maintaining the chocolates?

YES! we get to see the 'normal' bodytype they have! 

I mean, there are so many people whining when their SO/partner changes the longer they are together.
"You were fitter when we met." of "You looked sexier two years ago."
NO SHIT! They probably were doing their best to find a nice partner or something and worked on themselves. (Or just worked on themselves because why not? Work on yourself before working on someone else, right?)
But then, comfort is there, because the goal has been reached! You found a partner! Someone to woo and someone who wants to stay with you. And then... what's the need in the upkeep of those muscles?
Which results in people being disappointed.
(Note: There's a red flag and green flag way in this of course. You can gaslit another because they now don't have that body anymore, or you can just voice that your expectations have changed, which is fine.)

I can't stress this enough: Don't go for the super trained bodytype!
Observe your partner at either their worst or their normal, then you know what their genetic bodytype is and if you're still attracted to that. 
If then they decide to gain abs, that's good for you! But at least then you know you'll still like them without them!

And then.... THERE'S MORE THAN ABS!
The internet gets crazy when a celeb shows their dryingrack... I honestly always cringe a little when I see that happen. Because...

Arms!
Chest!
Behinds!
Calves!
Hands!
Neck!
Shoulders!

My gosh, there are so many bodyparts JUST as smexysexy as abs...
Even worse: Abs are great, but if the tiddies aren't on pair with them, it looks WEIRD! (Yes! I said that!)
Go on! Open that file with your drooling pics! And tell me after reading this you haven't checked out their tidbits?!
Weird, right?! 

Especially in the K-pop community I see this happening. 
And why is this happening?
Because most -if not all- K-pop idols need to maintain their weight and body fat percentages.

But...

Yes...

Come closer....

Pssst...



Abs will automatically show up if your bodyfat percentages are low...
Shocker right?!
"But writer-san, my idol cutie does a lot of dancing and training. So they are real muscles!"
Yeahyeahyeahyeah... I get that, but what training does is growing those fibers. Thus, creating bigger muscles.
But that can only happen with a bit of FAT! Otherwise.... You know what the first thing your body does when there's not enough fat to give energy?

RIGHT! IT BREAKS DOWN PROTEINS! GUESS WHAT MUSCLES ARE MADE OUT OFF?!

Also, ever seen a really lanky person? 
They have abs... But ask them to lift something and you will see even your granny will be able to lift more.
Why?
BECAUSE THERE'S NO FAT ON LANKY BODYTYPES!

So yes, dear K-pop world. I get that making your idols having the waists of a mere skeleton seems attractive, but it is not and honestly the biggest clickbait ever in my humble opinion.

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So, how do we write with or without abs?
- Use any other attractive bodypart you can think of!
- Watch or read about realistic anatomy! 
My personal tip, but not those with a weak stomach: watch on Youtube; Institute of Human Anatomy. 
If you know better how a body works, how to get a certain body type and how to maintain it, you get a better understanding that creating these 'perfect' love interests is wishful thinking.
- Acknowledge the absurdity of their bodybuild!
Yeah! Dash in a bit of humor. Describe how they heave and puff on the ground whilst doing these ridiculous unattractive sets of push-ups and whatnot to maintain their physiques.
Or make them a bit vain so it doesn't come off as the most natural thing in the world to have at least six blocks and a V-line pointing downwards to the goodies!
- Just describe them as good looking without the need of describing their six-pack. Bonus points if you describe something that normally would be a bit of a flaw as something maybe attractive! 
- Normalize that abs aren't for everyone.

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Writer's confessions:
Ugh, yeah, I've never been an ab girl... That's why I rant that easily about it.

But I do appreciate a good pair! BUT only if someone has a nice chest to go along with it. (Gender doesn't matter, just a nice chest.) 

Did I watch content where my bias showed off his goodies? Myeah... But always with a bit of a side eye... Mainly because of the reaction of others. I mean... It's just muscle... Why the need to scream and salivate over them?

Once I had a friend who got offended that I said he was cheating with his body by deceiving others. Well... Sure, he had a point that it looked hella good...
But why oh why was it that almost all of his partners left him after being in a relationship after some time?
Because 'they lost that spark'.... Biatch, they meant he wasn't looking so hot all of a sudden when chomping on those chippies huh? 

Either way, love your body, maintain it, but don't overdo it. Being healthy is good enough OR be aware that your own body will betray you after some years if you keep shaping it into something it wasn't meant to be! Spares you a lot of selfdoubt if you ask me:D