POV

01.25.25

The question, "What’s your ideal husband?" has been playing in my mind ever since my friend casually threw it my way.

At first, I didn’t have an answer. I didn’t even know where to start.

Honestly, the concept of marriage or being someone’s wife feels like a blurry image in a distant future.

If I could choose, I don’t even know if I’d want to be with anyone.

Life feels simpler without the thought of sharing it with another person.

But then, I remember the dreams I had as a child.

Back then, I always pictured myself with a family of my own.

I dreamed of creating a warm, loving home where I could serve and care for the people I loved.

I imagined myself cooking meals, teaching my kids, and supporting my husband.

It was such a beautiful, innocent dream.

But now, my perspective has shifted.

Reality has crept in, and my mind is often consumed by other things—my studies, my personal growth, and the responsibilities I know I’ll face in the future.

It’s almost as if the thought of having a family someday has been placed on hold.

Still, if I were to sit down and really think about the kind of husband I would want, I think I’d know what to say.

I don’t have a long list of requirements or high standards, but I do have a few non-negotiables.

I want someone who loves God more than he loves me.

That’s the foundation I want for our relationship—faith in God and trust in His guidance.

I need someone who can guide me spiritually, who can give me advice when I’m losing my way, and who can remind me to follow God’s teachings even when I’m struggling.

I’d also want someone who understands me, especially during my mood swings and moments of doubt.

I know I can be a handful sometimes, but having someone who accepts me for who I am—flaws and all—means the world to me.

I want to be with a person who can make me feel safe and comforted, someone who can make our home feel like the best place in the world.

I don’t need someone extravagant or flashy.

I’d rather have someone simple, loving, and kind—someone whose presence is enough to bring peace to my heart.

Of course, I’m aware that love doesn’t always follow a checklist.

When you fall in love, the standards you once held onto might start to fade, and you begin to see the beauty in someone who doesn’t fit your original expectations.

Love has its own way of teaching us what truly matters, and I know that God’s plan will always be better than mine.

He knows the desires of my heart, and I trust that He’ll give me the husband I truly deserve when the time is right.

So, to my future husband—if you’re out there somewhere—I hope you understand me.

Please be patient with me, because I’m still in the process of growing and figuring out who I am.

I want to love myself fully before I even think about loving someone else.

Right now, I’m focusing on becoming the best version of myself so that if we do meet in the future, I’ll be ready to be your wife.

I imagine that if we ever cross paths, I’ll look back on this moment and laugh.

I’ll probably think about how uncertain I was, how funny it is to write something like this to someone I’ve never met.

But I hope you’ll know that even now, I’m preparing for you.

I want to be someone who can stand beside you, support you, and love you with all my heart.

For now, I’ll continue to focus on my studies, my dreams, and my personal growth.

I’ll leave everything in God’s hands because His timing is always perfect.

And when the day comes, when we finally meet, I know it will all make sense.

Until then, I’ll be patient, trusting that God is shaping both of us into the people we’re meant to be.

One day, when I read this again, I’ll smile.

I’ll remember how uncertain and hopeful I was, and I’ll be grateful that I trusted the process.

Life is unpredictable, but love will come in God’s perfect time.

And when it does, I’ll be ready to take that leap of faith with you.