Method Four of Four:
Find Peace on Your Own
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Enjoy your alone time. Before you can truly move on from your ex-boyfriend, you need to be able to enjoy your own company again. Though keeping a busy schedule and hanging out with your family and girlfriends will make you feel better, you should also be comfortable enough with the situation, and yourself, to be able to be content with spending a night in with a good book or a movie.Set some goals that you want to reach on your own. Maybe you want to train for a half marathon, finish an epically-long novel, or teach yourself French. Coming up with challenging activities and reaching your goals will build your confidence and will make you look forward to spending some time by yourself.Write in a journal. This will help you reflect on everything that happened and to chart your progress each day.Meditate. This is a wonderful activity that you can do on your own which will not only help you relax, but it will also make you feel more centered and in control of your own body. Meditation is not a group activity.
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Find a new passion. Along with continuing to do all of the things you loved and making time to check in with yourself, you can also look out for any completely new activity that can make your life more meaningful and open up new ways of thinking for you. Check out photography, poetry, playwriting, or any other solo-activity you've always wanted to try but were too afraid to do.Talk to your close friends or family members who have a deep passion. Maybe they can help you find a new activity that will make your life more meaningful.
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Enjoy being single. Though you may think it's impossible to enjoy being single when all you can do is think about your ex-boyfriend, you should enjoy this time to be carefree and to have some fun without overthinking every little thing you do or say. Have fun dressing up and going dancing with your girlfriends, flirting with some guys, or just doing the things your ex never wanted to do, like going biking or reading in a coffee shop.Take some tips from your single girlfriends. They'll know how to live it up.Have fun dressing up when you go out. You don't have to obsess over your appearance -- just wear something new and funky that you never would have worn for your ex-boyfriend.
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Don't date again until you're ready.The biggest mistake you can make when you're trying to get over your ex is to immediately try to date the first guy you see. You may think that being with a new random guy will help you take your mind off your pain, but it'll actually make you feel worse, because you'll constantly be comparing the new guy to your ex and will be thinking about all the ways that he doesn't measure up.Not only will you be making your healing process harder, but you may end up inadvertently hurting a new guy who really likes you.You'll know when you're ready to date when you meet a new guy and feel exciting to talk to him and get to know him -- without thinking about your ex-boyfriend.
