Question?

The difference between a romantic and a queerplatonic relationship?

I got this from a tumblr account that you can find here: http://aromanticaardvark.tumblr.com/post/25625686403/romantic-relationships-vs-queerplatonic

'My idea was that queerplatonic relationships were sort of the 'mix and match' of relationships, which is why it's so hard to define and articulate. If you ask twenty aro spectrum people who experience these feelings what this word means, you will get about twenty different answers. With romance, even though some of the things may vary within specific relationships and everyone has a different experience with it, there is still a narrative that is generally followed and things that are expected in a romantic relationship. For example, bed sharing, hand holding, cuddling, kissing, etc. One or two of these things might not be present in the specific relationship, of course, but there tends to be certain things that are expected in a romantic relationship before it is simply considered platonic. Likewise, there are certain things expected in strictly platonic friendships - in most friendships, if you kiss or share a bed with them, it would generally be considered unusual.

Queerplatonic to me means the breaking down of narratives. It means no rules. It means doing, essentially, whatever you are comfortable with. If you want to be best friends for all intents and purposes but also get married, that's okay. If you want to kiss sometimes but don't want to feel obligated, that's okay too. This is why every person in a relationship like this has a different definition of it, because there are no rules.'

There's more, but I don't want to copy the whole page. I do suggest you go to the link because I'm not aromantic, and you're better off talking to somebody who is :)

Update:

I've found it out. I have a squish on my friend (although I'm not aro so I'm really confused) and have a desire to have a queerplatonic relationship with her, not a romantic one.

A queerplatonic relationship for me, is a relationship where you're considered as more than friends, but not enough to actually be girlfriends. It's like a romantic relationship without the kissing and making out of stuff.

:)