Ten Steps To Personality Enhancement

Chapter 9 Step 9

Step 9

The Mask: keep it away.

We often try to pretend what we are not.

We try to be polite when we are burning with fury inside.

We pretend to smile when we are very upset.

We try and act modern and wear western clothes when we value of culture and traditions more.

We tend to do things to please others being totally out of character.

"We were so good initially and then he started showing his colors"

"I did so well initially in the office but as time passed I lost interest"

"I enjoyed my friend circle but gradually I realized I am not meant to be there"

These are often people complain to me about themselves.

So when I went into detail of these situations and studied them

I realized that when we start something new be it a job, new classes, new group of friends, club even a school or hide what we exactly are, we put in a lot of effort in presenting ourselves.

We try to be like the people we are about to join to be a part of them.

And in a gest to do that we often hide our own self, we kind of hide our original face behind a make up or a mask.

This mask is hazardous.

For it hides the true YOU

Do's

1. Remember you are different from others. You are UNIQUE and special in your own way

2. Believe in your own set of skills and flaws that you endure and accept them

3. Change yourself only if You desperately want yourself to.

For instance if you think you panic or loose your temper quickly and want to change yourself, you are more then welcome.

But if you believe that you are not smart or extrovert like others then think...Is this really a flaw that you want to change?

4. Value your personality and respect yourself. If you don't, nobody else will.

5. Pick friends, society and workplace where you feel comfortable and those you are ready to accept way you are.

6. Look or discover your personal style from within.

Don't's

1. Never try too hard to fit in a group that you do not belong to.

2. Do not try to imitate or copy others or someone you are looking forward too, it would eventually hamper your originality and authencity.

3. Try not to doubt your own self. It is nothing but self-destruction.

4. Stop caring about how people perceive you.

5. You cannot please everybody, so stop trying and freaking yourself

I once tried to wear my friends gray wedges to a party ignoring my silver stilettoes thinking that they were better matching rather they were exactly matching and making a style statement which was not me but I went with the insistence.

I was havoc at the party, the shoes weren't my fit and I got severe shoe bites and I wasn't comfortable at all for I am not a wedges person.

I couldn't concentrate or enjoy at the evening.

I concluded had I worn my casual slip-ons, it would have been much better;)

Fact :

My friend once approached me complaining about her daughter, "she doesn't dance well. I picked one of the best dance classes for her but she doesn't perform."

"But why are so keen in putting her into dancing?" I asked.

"I want her to enjoy and what better a way of enjoying than dance in parties or disco theques, she is going to thank me when she is grown up."

I smiled at her thought "why do you think parties are the only fun?"

"My experience sweetie" she tried to explain "my husband is such a bore, he doesn't socialize, doesn't go to parties and is happy at home watching tv or doing his fitness. He is a fitness freak.'

"Does he complain often that he is bored?" I asked, the story or fact was intriguing me now.

"No" she dismissed easily "he says he's happy the way he is, but it is boring."

"Dear" I tried to explain "it is not necessary that what pleases or entertains you would be the same for everyone else.

May be your daughter has interest in something else and she'd find her source of enjoyment one day. Try not to force anything into her."

"Yeah I am trying.." she sighed

I might have met her months later at a shopping mall when she ran to me hugging me all of a sudden "The other day when you told me to take my baby somewhere she'd enjoy, I took her swimming and today , just today she won a state level gold medal. I am so happy."

"Congratulations." I said I was so overwhelmed that my words meant so much.

"You were right enjoyment and entertainment do have different perceptions. I am glad I found my daughter's"

A little exercise if you really are following this book...

Take a paper and pen and jolt down compliments that you have received so far in your life from the day you remember be it your childhood or later till today...

For eg.

1. You have a beautiful smile

2. You are good in maths.

3. Your eyes dance when you are excited

4. You have a pretty handwriting.

5. you have lovely and fair feet[who compliments on fee? But I got this one:lol]

6.

7.... And on and on[*well I cannot keep on bragging about my own self* winks winks*]

I am sure there would be plenty of them

Once done read them aloud so that you can hear with your own ears

Then take a pause and think od you want to be or behave like someone who you really not are.

Don't try to please someone other than you.

Because we are most comfortable when we are in our own shoes:)

So my dear friends what you are is God's gift to you and the way you persevere yourself is your gift to him.

Stop pretending and be yourself

Author's Note[please read]

Hi!!!

First of all a HUGE Thank You to all who have read so far

Just one chapter; Step 10 left and the book is complete:0

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Good day and God Bless!!!!