Ten Steps To Personality Enhancement

Chapter 4 Step 4 Conversation Skills

Chapter 4

Step 4

Conversation Skills

"A good speech should be like a woman's skirt; long enough to cover the subject and short enough to create interest."

― Winston S. Churchill

Try to make at least one person happy every day. If you cannot do a kind deed, speak a kind word. If you cannot speak a kind word, think a kind thought. Count up, if you can, the treasure of happiness that you would dispense in a week, in a year, in a lifetime!

Lawrence G. Lovasik

I often come across my clients who say

"I do not talk much because I am scared that by mistake my words would hurt someone"

"I did not talk because I believed everyone shared enough."

"I believe in listening"

"I am a quiet person, not a gossip monger"

Well all the parables are true.

BUT but but

Are you sure you are not using this to hide your insecurities?

Social anxiety disorder is a common illness that is related to shyness, fear of rejection and mostly due to past history of bullying, broken family or family conflicts or $exual abuse.

But this isnt a disease or a medical problem, it is only a state of mind that can be reviewed

 Again I have also come across people who hesitate for simplest things

Be it to ask for best deals

For the directions

And even the basic communication of placing an order is difficult for them

Enquiries go a big no no...

If you are giving the name of 'Silence is golden' then my friend you need me; you need to read this book.

Well there is an ettiquete to be followed while conversation.

And the biggest mantra of successful communication is "Listen"

To be a good orator you need to a very good listener.

I often come across people saying that they gel up well with me, they enjoy spending time with me, they find me interesting and entertaining.

All that I use with them is listen to them.

We akll have something be it a nerd, a snob or a leader.

That is exactly the reason these social websites have been extremely successful.

And I would rather not skip your favorite whatsapp, line, viber and so on.

Funny though it may seem we prefer writing or texting whatever we want to say rather than communicating verbally although the former one has a materialistic proof if the ill words have been used by

The very satisfying reason behind this being that we fear of judgements, reaction of others or may I add rejection by others.

A very god friend of mine is very talented and active, a good speaker too but whenever she suggests anything which is rejected by the other she turns into a snap back mode.

It is a very normal thing to be disappointed but to keep your mouth shut and deprive yourself of further knowledge is unacceptable.

Now how does communicating or convretion adds to our knowledge.