Dear Alen,
My parents show blatant favoritism towards my siblings and no matter how hard I try they never seem to notice my accomplishments, it's always about my sisters. What can I do?
Love,
Day+night.
Hi, Day+night!
I totally get what you're saying.
But often, we make the mistake of thinking that our parents don't acknowledge us, but in reality, they really do. Parents, obviously, have different thinking of what they think is best for their children.
For example, when they are hard on their child, it often means that they care for them and want them to be the best. What else would motivate them but a non-caring parent, right? I know it sound harsh, but sometimes, it happens. Soft parents sometimes doesn't work. But whatever the case is, they love you and care for you just as much as they care for your siblings.
The best thing to do is really to talk to them and tell them how you feel. When they say you're just being dramatic (I know because I've tried), tell them you're being serious, and force them to listen. Tell your dad or mom, whoever you are closest to, how you feel about what they're doing. Talk to your sisters, even. Your family needs to know how you feel about the events happening in your own home.
If they still do the same thing, it's time for you to do some actions. Now, don't be rebellious, don't ditch or drink, or smoke, or whatever hipsters do these days. Maybe talk back a little bit, but still respect them. Don't go all too much.
But my advice for you is to just talk to them. They are your parents, after all, and they will understand your needs. They love you, and when they notice what they're doing to you, they will be hurt and show you more respect, and treat you the way you deserve.
You also have to remember that parents sometimes don't have all the time to make all their children fee special. Sometimes, they get too focus on the youngest one because the others are getting older. Like I said above, parents have different thinking. You just need to find out what's going on with them.
I hope I helped at least a little bit. Thank you for coming to me.
xo, alen.
