Oh hey Alen, didn't see you there LOL OK SO what has been bugging me is comparison. Like, whenever I make a mistake or do something lower than standards (like an A-) my mom and dad would compare me to my cousin or my friend saying "why cant you be like her?" And its honestly getting real annoying. Advise? ~Alfa Kennybody xoxo
Hi, Alfa Kennybody (um? Haha)
I think your parents has high expectations for you. It's not because they think your cousin or other people are smarter and much better than you, but it's because they want you to be the best you can be. They might not show it the way you want it to be shown, but they just really want you to be the definition of "perfect" in their eyes.
You see, some parents expect too much of their children, and sometimes, the kids just do what their parents say. The way they judge you and compare you? Make it your motivation to actually do better than you already are. I'm sure as heck that you're already the best you can be, and there's nothing wrong with that. But, if they want you to be even better than that (if possible), then give it a go.
That kind of parenting not only gives you motivation, but gives you the experience to be independent. It's not a bad thing, it's a good thing. Your parents care for you, regardless of how they show it. If it's hurting you, let them know, they're your parents and they should understand.
I hope this helps! good luck.
xo, alen.
