Rants and Other Shit

this is MY skin!

my body, my rules.

my skin is mine. i don't choose how it looks. God gives me it this way. no ones opinion should change how i see myself. as an african girl,i feel like we all have different thoughts on our skin. 

try this.

 ask girls to dream up their future husbands. the response i got was this; six packs, light skinned and pink lipped. 

i asked if that was what a handsome boy looked like to them and they said anything but dark skinned. what is wrong with a brother with dark skin? 

now i love my squad cause we are small and no one looks alike. we are tall,short, skinny, chubby and all ranges of black. also wazobia(different tribes). but our dar skinned bro is usually teased for the color of his skin. by both teachers and students. when he hangs with me, they say ' you are too black for her'. it makes me wanna cry. these people aren't even fair in complexion either. in any argument, he gets called too black and brown lipped and this clearly has led to some insecurities. it actually led to him insulting anyone lighter than him. 

this was annoying. i usually had to step up and defend him asking the person how dumb they are to separate us farther by our skin tones. beauty has no particular skin  tone, color, race, height, weight, intelligence,ability, hair type, tribe, religion, gender, body type. beauty is unspecific. it is not particular. so who the hell is setting standards? 

cause these standards are impossible to reach. they lead to anorexia, mental disorders and hatred towards society. making people uncomfortable in their own skin? that leads to suicide! it is dangerous.

if a person is healthy and happy, why does their weight matter? people usually say me and my friend are exact opposites from behavior to appearance. i get teased for being fuller and slightly bigger. i get a lot of comments telling me to lose weight. well, then everyone on tv looks like a supermodel what do yo want me to think or feel? i already feel selfconscious when i dress. thank you for helping my insecurity. NOT.

but my friend, she gets teased for not being full. she is skinny but not by choice. she is told that she looks like a kid and she is sometimes compared to me by boys. they always say she needs to look more like me. NO. she needs to look like herself. she is no me. 

no one even cares anymore how you fell. especially in nigeria where your aunties first greet yo with your weight increase or decrease. no one is ever satisfied. even people with ' good bodies' still hate a part of them. one reason why i don't like plastic surgery is cause i feel like it makes you the product of a damaged society.it shows how easily you gave in to bullshit. also you have to be honest about it cus we younger girls, we look up to you so much....