{Daily Affirmations for Girls}

Body Insecurities

Insecure means: "(of a person) not confident or assured; uncertain and anxious." "(of a thing) not firm or set; unsafe."

So if you couldn't tell, this D.A. is going to be over body insecurities. For all body types.

To start this off, here is a little story:

When I was around 13 or 14, I went up to Wisconsin with my dad to go to my grandpa's 80th birthday party. I was so excited to see everyone, especially my aunt, whom I adore to bits! I was going to see her, my uncle and his kids and wife, my gramps and his wife, and my other uncle who was flying in. I was with my aunt for around 3 hours, enjoying her company, when my cousins showed up. I hadn't seen then in around 2 or 3 years and I was looking forward to seeing them. When I finished talking to my girl cousin, I turned to her brother, who had grown at least a foot, and I was like "you are so much bigger than me now!" and he scanned my body over and said "Well, not bigger.". I felt awful. The rest of the visit, which was from like 2 pm to 9-ish pm, he was constantly picking on me about my weight, how I looked, and anything he could find about me. He was playing cards with his sis and asked me if I knew how to play, to which I responded "No." and he said something like "A woman of your girth should know how to play cards." and honestly, my face was like WTF DOES THAT MEAN?! (sorry for that acronym but legit). Later, he tried to trip me and I kinda wobbled over and my hip hit the corner of a side table. When I stood up and walked away, I heard his dad scold him and said he would have hurt me, but his son just said "Why? If she would have fallen, she just would have wobbled!" I went to the bathroom and I tried not to cry. It was the worst evening of my life. I didn't say anything and I didn't stand up for myself.

Before then, I had never been insecure about myself. Yes, I knew I was chunky. I owned mirrors, I knew what I looked like. But it never bothered me. I was just me. What my cousin said broke me down and I had no confidence anymore. What little self-love I possessed was gone. For years after that, all I saw when I looked in the mirror was a fat blob who would never get love and who didn't deserve it, because she was fat. It killed me to see myself.

I worked out, but that would last for a month and then I would quit. That was like that for a year. I am just now getting to a point where I am happy with myself. I work out around 5 to 6 days a week, I watch what I eat, and I just learned to love myself again. It was hard. I just kept asking, "why do I deserve love? No guy will ever want to date a fat girl." And the thing was, I was never huge. Yes, I am overweight, but my body carries it in a way where it is in the front and around my hips. But all I could see was a huge mess.

I was never insecure but after that, I began to pick out any tiny flaw I saw in myself. I still kind of do, but it isn't nearly as bad as it was.

I know a lot of girls are insecure. I know a lot of you are. But what you need to know if that no matter what you look like, you are still gorgeous! Love doesn't go by your shirt size. You deserve love, regardless of your size.

I know it isn't just bigger girls who feel insecure. I know a lot of skinny girls do too. But again, thin girls, your size doesn't define you or the level of love you deserve.

This is something people say a lot, but what matters on the inside matters the most. If you have a soul that reflects happiness, joy, and kindness, people will be drawn to you! They see how genuine you are and they love that. People are very fake and if you are the Prada in a lot of cheap knock-offs, you will be the one people migrate to.

You are lovely and desirable no matter how big or small you are, honey. Take it from someone who knows and has gone through this many times.

You are worthy of love.