{Daily Affirmations for Girls}

Miss Independent

"Miss never let a man help her off her throne
So, by keeping her heart protected
She'd never ever feel rejected
Little miss apprehensive
Said ooh, she fell in love"

Those are the lyrics to Miss Independent by Kelly Clarkson. Now, I know what it is like to fall in love. I know I am only a teenager, but I do know what love is, or at least, what I felt was love.

Let me start this off with a story for you:

A year ago, I met a guy who was absolutely amazing. We quickly became best friends and talked every single day. Over time, we learned everything about each other. He knows my biggest fears, what I adore, and what I think. And I know those about him. He became my twin and I could never go a day without speaking to him. Soon after that, he told me "i love you" and I said the same. I know people say that "i love you" is wasted on people, but I don't throw around that powerful 3-word phrase. When I say it to someone, I mean it. Anyway, we said "i love you", we had cute pet names for each other, and we were, honestly, perfect. I fell in love with him. The way he smiled, the way he laughed, the way he said my name, and the way he hugged me. I loved everything about him. Fast forward 9 months later, we are no longer friends. I wasn't even told by him. It is a long story about why we are no longer friends, but it has to do with his mother's disapproval of me and our relationship. Moving on, I was absolutely sick and miserable for two days straight. His image would pop into my head and I would burst out into tears. There was a moment where I was sobbing on my bathroom floor and I texted my cousin (she is the literal definition of Miss Independent!) and I told her what happened. I also said that I felt like half of me was missing and I didn't really know who I was or anything anymore, I didn't know how to live without him. She told me that I have my own identity apart from him and I didn't need to have him as my other half, and that he shouldn't be. I have my own identity apart from him. Those words were like a bomb to me and only made me sob even harder. I did the only thing I could do at the time: I got up, put on a face mask to cover my puffy face so my family wouldn't know that I was a wreck, and I tried to begin to move on from him.

It has been about four (just about 5) months since this has happened and I feel more independent than I ever have. I am going to say that I was in love, he was my first love for sure. But if I could go back and tell myself one thing, I would say that I am my own person and he does not deserve my other half or my love. He was unworthy of my love. And I used to tell him that I didn't deserve him and all that stuff, but I was wrong: he didn't deserve me. He has had many many chances to explain and try to talk to me but he has never taken that opportunity. He is a coward and I see the guilt and sadness in his eyes when he looks at me and I am okay with that, because mine don't look like that. I am happy and I feel fabulous without him!

So with that said, I can't stress this enough: you don't need a man in your life to make you feel happy, loved, worthy, or deserving.

You are your own happiness, create it, do things that make you happy, meditate, do yoga, learn to be happy with yourself and who your truly are!

You are loved! You are loved by so many people and as long as you love who you are, that is the love you want.

You are SO worthy of everything! You are worthy of love, happiness, peace, strength, you are worthy of all of it and everything that life has to offer you!

You are deserving: you deserve only the very very best you can have. You don't need a guy who will only half love you or not love you at all. Don't waste your love and time on a guy who can't see the beauty that you are and your gorgeous spirit. If he is blind enough to pass up you, let him. Don't chase after him and try to make him fall in love with you. He isn't worth your time.

I know I probably sound kind of cruel when I say to let the guy go, but if he doesn't return your love in leaps and bounds, he isn't the one for you. You have a  lot of time left and you will find the right guy for you. There are so many guys out in the world.
And if that guy who walks away is meant for you in the end, true love has a way of coming back. He will come back as the mature, dependable, loving man that you deserve.

You should find your independence and confidence before you get into a relationship. Realize that you are a queen and that you deserve only the finest things in life. You can snap your fingers and a guy will drop at your feet because you are the absolute best there is. If you are with a guy who doesn't see that, dump him. Queens don't marry trash, they marry kings.

You need to know that you are independent! Be Miss Independent. Be that girl who doesn't care what life throws at her because she can handle it. You are that girl, believe in yourself! Have the confidence in yourself and take a hold of life! Love the time you have as a single, independent woman before you get into a relationship with a guy.

Be.Who.You.Are. 

Sincerely,

A fellow Queen