Journey into Faith

Tendency to Compromise

"Cmon' it's just a peck on the lips."

"It's only make out. Why make such a big deal out of that?"

I've heard these lines many times especially when my girls share their sexual intimacy with their boyfriends. Each one to her own defense. As I was in a relationship with that non-christian guy, I also struggled with physical sexual intimacy especially when it's just the two of us.

Most couples would justify that their acts were just to show an affection of love. So, What is love by the way? And are there physical boundaries to say that we are already compromising our faith? If we're not careful, we might be in a tendency to compromise.

Compromising covers a lot of areas in our christian life but I'm going to share the most common and most challenging of compromises: physical sexual intimacy. Why not sex? Because we know that sex is wrong if done outside from the context of marriage. Sex, is an act of love given and given only to couples inside the context of marriage. Who did? God did. (Read Genesis 2:24, Hebrews 13:4)

But is peck on the lips a sin? Is making out a sin?

Any acts of sexual intimacy outside of marriage is considered as "sexual immorality." Sexual immorality is indeed a sin. May it be a simple peck on the lips or a slight making out. These actions are parallel to what married couples do in bed and while doing it, did your imaginations run wild that you suddenly have the urge to do it?

And these simple acts of love as most couples view of it, is an act of compromising your purity and holiness. Our body, is the temple of the Holy Spirit and should not be used for our own pleasures. We do not longer own ourselves, but it is God who now owns us!

"Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies."

1 Corinthians 6: 18-20

Guys, if you really love your girl then do not lead her to compromise. Likewise, girls if you really love your guy, then do not lead him to compromise. For it says in 1 Corinthians 13: 6-7 "..Love does not rejoice in wrong doing, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always perseveres."

As what the quote in Go Deeper by Ken Jung goes, "There is only one thing that sin needs to succeed, it's opportunity." And compromises opens that opportunity.

Challenge:

What are you feeding yourselves lately (porn, green movies, green anime, trash talk)? Do you always hang out with your boyfriend/girlfriend alone? Are you in the stage where you're making out? Let us always ask God's intervention especially with our relationship with the opposite gender that we may never come to compromise any acts of lust or physical intimacy. Just what Joseph had done when he faced temptation of Potiphar's wife - may we also run and never compromise.

for it is written: "Be holy, because I am holy."

1 Peter 1:16