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@kailian16's interview

What do you identify as (gender, sexuality, romatic etc, etc)?:

My name is Kai or Kailian. If you would like to PM me please feel free my username is kailian16. I identify as a trans (short for transgender) boy which means that I was born with a girl body but my brain is a boys brain so I am a boy and I am doing things to help my body match my brain. I am pre-T which means I am not taking testosterone (male hormones) yet and my mom won't let me take them until I am out of her house. I am pan romantic and demisexual. Pan romantic means I am willing to date pretty much anyone on a get to know them basis while demisexual means I won't go more than a get to know you type of relationship until I establish a deep emotional connection with the person.

Did/do you ever struggle with accepting yourself? If yes, why?:

Out of all my identifies I think accepting myself as trans was the hardest. When I was younger after my mom had "the talk" with me she told me it was okay to like boys or girls so I knew she wouldn't mind my being pan and she was ecstatic when I told her I was Demi (lol). I grew up in a Christian household and church was very...well. Religious. Very conforming. My mom was less strict than my church. She was okay with all the sexuality stuff but struggled a bit when I came out as trans.

Have you come out of the closet to your family? If so, how did they react?:

I realized myself that I was trans when I was around 12 or 13 and sort of came out to one friend when I was 13 almost 14 then came out to the rest of my friends officially. I came out to my teacher at school and all my friends and my teacher were super accepting which helped me a lot. I came out to my parents just after I turned 15. I was super nervous and I ended up writing it down and handing it to them. I was looking down in shame as they read it. Afraid of their responses...they took it okay. They were confused. They had a lot of questions which was to be expected. But overall they were pretty okay for the circumstances. My mom still struggles with pronouns and sometimes just avoids them altogether. She does not approve or hormone replacement or surgery of any kind which is something I've struggled with for some time and continue to struggle with to this day.

What advice would you give other member of LGBT who may be closeted or having a hard time accepting themselves?:

Some advice for those who are thinking about coming is to remember to have a backup. A place to go if your parents get violent or kick you out or make you feel unsafe in anyway. A family member you've come out to and is accepting or a friend who's parents and them both are. Another hint is to try to remember if you are struggling with gender is that gender is just a social contract that was made up. Gender isn't that important. Is does not define you or who you are. People say to love yourself and that you can be whatever you want to be. Parents say they don't care the gender of their child as long as their healthy. Those same parents later struggle with accepting their daughter as their son or vise versa. But we have to understand that they raised a child that they attached dreams to. Maybe your dad dreamed of walking you down the aisle on your wedding day or of your football trophies after you win the championship. I guess the biggest piece of advice I have is to give people time. While you have had some time to think through and accept yourself this is new to them and you can't just throw it in their face and expect immediate change. It's hard. You will even miss gender yourself a few times speaking out loud. So just give them a chance. They'll learn. If they matter. They'll learn.