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There are many aspects of your identities that it is simply hard for you to see without the help of another person.

We need others to be our mirrors, feeding back their insights and perspectives on the hard-to-see parts of ourselves.

However, getting hold of data from others is a very unreliable process.

Very few people can be bothered to undertake the arduous task of giving us feedback.

Either they dislike you too much and therefore can’t be bothered. Or they like you too much, and don’t want to upset you.

Our friends are too polite; good intentions lead them to keep their less pleasant observations to themselves.

Your enemies have so much to tell you: it’s not always the people you like who see certain aspects of you most clearly.

It might be someone you are at loggerheads with who has the sharpest sense of what’s not quite going right in your character.

But they are not likely to be good at sharing their wisdom with you.

They either won’t take the trouble, or will brush you off with the sort of sharp insults that will make you defensive and closed to the wisdom embedded within their harsh assessments.

Thank You!

© The School of life

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