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One: – Relationships

We’re not terribly flexible when it comes to falling in love. We have types.

There are patterns: each of us tends to have a characteristic sort of person we go for – a more or less sketchy template of the sort of person we find very attractive.

We’re used to seeing our types in terms of the positives. But, in fact, every type also carries a lot of negatives as well.

The people we tend to go for may be attractive to us for some very nice reasons.

We need self-knowledge in love because we are so prone to repeat unhealthy patterns.

We leave a relationship hoping to leave behind a particular set of problems – which we find again in the next relationship.

These patterns normally derive from childhood experience whereby love was mixed in with various kinds of suffering.

The father whose attention and affection we craved was also often annoyed: the mother who we loved was often preoccupied and always heading out to do more exciting things while leaving us behind.

Self-knowledge means first of all seeing the pattern. It means understanding the negative aspects of the type of person we tend to get involved with.

Then, choose or not to be with the person.

Thank You!

© The School of Life

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