My Christian dating life

Chapter 2

About four months after breaking up with Jake I started talking to a guy called Chris. I had seen Chris from a distance at a church camp and in my mind thought he was cute but I never actually knew I was going to end up talking to him. He had started talking to a very close friend of mine on Facebook and I recognized him after a while. I wouldn't have ever dared to send him a message I always believed that a guy should pursue a girl. It just so happened that we would both comment on my friend's posts and then he ended up messaging me. Within a month of talking to him he was flirting with me and sometimes I would respond but sometimes I would also give him a cold shoulder. He later confessed to me that he had a girlfriend called Michelle and I never wanted to take anyone's boyfriend so I kept my distance.
During this period I got tired of being single and ended up dating my ex best friend's ex boyfriend for two weeks. I never told her because I didn't want to hurt her. I couldn't keep dating him because I realized I didn't like him and I had only accepted his proposal because I was tired of being single. I would flirt with a few guys but it would never go far because they weren't what I wanted.
Eventually after talking to Chris for about seven months we decided to meet since we went to the same church but different branches since it would be easier. We then met at a church event that we were both attending. At first he came off as a bit of a mean person to me. I should have seen this was a red flag already but I knew nothing at the time, I was just a teenage girl looking for love. The day went pretty well although we were both shy so we didn't talk that much. When I went home I knew I liked him more because I had seen him.
We had a discussion over the phone about his girlfriend Michelle and he told me he had met her online and had never seen her so it wasn't serious. I never wanted to wreck anyone's relationship so I kept my distance from him. I then found out that his girlfriend attended my school so I went and looked for her with a friend of mine Liane who was very loud and we found her. She did most of the talking and she told her that we were Chris' friends. I also heard rumors from people who knew her that she had plenty of boyfriends and so I told Chris. Now that I look back I realize that I didn't make a good decision then because it led Chris to saying that he wanted to break up with her. The truth is that deep down in my heart I was happy that they were breaking up because it meant that I finally had a chance to date him since I had liked him for a long time.

Although he had told me that they were breaking up he didn't immediately do it, he kept on delaying the breakup so I decided to get a boyfriend to make him jealous. My plan did work but because I didn't really like the guy I was dating we only dated for two weeks or so and I never really saw him within those two weeks. Finally Chris told me he had broken up with his girlfriend and I was overjoyed and told my friend Liane. Being the loud girl she was Liane went to Michelle and consoled her about her breakup with Chris and she was quite surprised. It was an awkward moment because they hadn't actually broken up, Chris had lied to me.

The moment I got home from school Chris asked me what I had done and I told him everything that had happened and most importantly confronted him that he had lied to me. I didn't realize this was going to be the beginning of a stream of lies. Days later they did eventually breakup and this time it was true. From then on Chris kept telling me that he was going to ask me to be his girlfriend but he wanted to do it in person so we talked for a whole month without actually being officially together but we had already agreed that we were committing to being together.