There was an upcoming church retreat that Chris and I were going to attend so we decided we would make things official there. The retreat was a week long so there was enough time for us to spend together. At the retreat I would see him for two hours or so a day and we would spend most of our time together just talking. I remember the last night of the retreat he told me that he was supposed to ask me to be his girlfriend and he wanted it to be perfect. I really thought this was the big moment, but it wasn't. He just hugged me good night and he went to sleep, so I thought. I knew this was it, he wasn't going to ask me to be his girlfriend at the retreat because the next morning we were going back home. Nevertheless I still trusted that he liked me and wanted to be with me.
The last morning when I finished packing I asked a friend of mine Melissa to escort me to say goodbye to Chris. I saw Chris and told him I was there to say goodbye and we went for a walk together, talking and laughing. It was quite a beautiful moment and then he hugged me goodbye.
From the time of the retreat more than a month passed before I saw him so he ended up just asking me to be his girlfriend over the phone. I just assumed he hadn't asked me at the retreat because he was shy and it all went well, we finally became official a year and ten days after we started talking.
Since it was the beginning of our relationship we were in the cupcake phase and after two months of dating we exchanged Facebook passwords. I guess we both didn't realize how much of a curious person I actually was. I found myself being tempted to read one of his conversations with a girl called Pauline. Pauline was a naughty girl from my church who was pregnant at that time but she was also very beautiful so boys couldn't resist her. I didn't realize reading that conversation was going to come with heartbreak. I found a message where she was complaining to him that he just kissed her at the retreat (yes that same retreat I was at!) and just left her, and that she had heard rumors that he was now with me and not her. My heart broke and I didn't know what to do with myself. I immediately confronted him about it and I broke up with him. He tried to explain to me that he had been scared to tell me and that he had also been forced to do it but I never believed him up to this day.
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My Christian dating life
SpiritualThis is a narrative of my dating life up to date. I hope this will teach many people lessons through the mistakes that I made. I'm a Christian so I highlight it from a Christian perspective although it has lessons to teach everyone.
