Bihhhhhh (A Rant Book)

Relationship Tings...

As a woman I like to hear other women's opinions on dating. We all have very different opinions on the opposite sex and I'd like to hear them.

I ain't got no friends up here so y'all just act like you guys fùck with me and comment what y'all think.

I got a few points I'm going to go through, and give my opinion, and y'all can comment what you feel as well.

Please don't slander another female's opinion on here. No answer is correct and maybe we can all learn something.

Here's my points:

Point #1: If you're dating/talking to a guy, and he doesn't post any pics of you on social media, is that a sign he's not into you?

My OP: A relationship is private, and I feel like some things aren't meant to be put on the internet. Like for example, freaky nasty stuff that's close to pòrn or your own relationship problems you're having. Posting about cute stuff like dates, and anniversary are fine though, but I'm iffy about monthly anniversaries and 6 months anniversaries. I still like feeling out a person at that time, and three months isn't enough for me. I gotta friend who posts their anniversary MONTHLY, and I'm like, we get it, you're in love. Sheesh.

Point #2: (This question is for girls that date older guys.) Do you think a man's body count or past experience in dating matters?

My OP: As I said in my questions posts, me and my man have a ten year age gap.

And I say man cause he is a grown ass man that pays bills, goes to work and all that shìt... He ain't no man that's still tryna act like a teeny bopper like these old heads do, he knows what he wants.

So of course I knew that he had a lot of experience with women romantically and sexually. And I KNEW what I signed up for. I never asked him how many women he's slept with, I never looked through his phone for any old girlfriends, I never asked about his past relationships. I'm not even going to be insecure about myself or get jealous cause I trust him. I believe that's the main thing that you need in a relationship in order for it to stay.

If you're a female that's dating a man where the age gap is from five to twenty years, be his peace sis. He's getting too old for that arguing shít 😂

Point #3: Let's get serious for a second. How long do you think it should be before you get a promise ring? And how long should it be before you get an engagement ring?

My OP: First thing I wanna settle is do not under any circumstances, propose to a man. When I see stuff like that, I just shake my head. I'll cook rice one by one before I propose to my man.

Other than that, I think the maximum is one year for a promise ring and engagement ring. One year is long enough to feel a person out, what makes them happy, angry, sad, etc.

I feel like my dude is gonna give me a book with our names carved into it instead of a ring 😂 like marry me and I'm like huh? He's already told me he dates to marry so I'm like 😬

Point #4: What's your definition of a healthy sexual life with your partner?

My OP: Without giving any details on my own life, I feel like sex should be always involved when it comes to dating. It's really important honestly. Unless you're just too young for sex in general, and wait until it feels right, gone head!

It's up to y'all in general how many times you want to do it though. Remember sex isn't just a physical thing, sex brings a close connection to your partner spiritually and emotionally as well, and I think that's what we get confused.

Plus the older the guy, the more sexual drive they got. Especially if they're in they late twenties or early thirties.

But if a girl ain't giving it up, she don't like yo' ass. Period. No tampon.

Point #5: When do you feel is a good time to live together?

Whenever the funds are right and we're emotionally ready to see each other every day.

These are all the points that I felt were on my mind heavily. Go ahead and let me know what you think! If you have more points you want my opinion on, I'll do this again! I'm not a relation guru, so don't pin your heartbreak on me 😬

I start working on Friday and I'm so ready to see the little kids! Hopefully I'll be able to upload a real book tomorrow 🤘🏾