Into the mind of me...

Funerals

Funerals usually have 4 parts. The wake, a ceremony of some type, the burial, and the family gathering. Each belief or religion has different wants of having them, but that's the only way I know when people die. But they do have a funny way of bringing people together. Old friends, family, just anyone who knew the person who died. I was at one yesterday. I saw family that I haven't seen since I was 8, I'm 16 now. They hug everyone, tell them that they miss them, and wish they can see them more, but the questions really is why haven't you taken the time to see them already. I ask this question all the time. I understand that people grow apart, but why should it take for someone to die to bring them back together. If they truly did care, why couldn't they have been more present. My mom saw people from high school she used to be best friends with. When she had a life, she used to go to concerts with 4 people, only 1 still sees and talks to her. They used to hang out everyday after school and a different concert every weekend. They knew each other better then anyone else, so why did only one still see her. Maybe life got in the way, but it takes 30 seconds to dial a phone. So I ask, why? Why does it have to take such a bad situation to bring people together? When you loose a family member, you are more vulnerable. Depending on how close you are, it would be so easy for you to snap. For me, I think funerals are the worst way to re-connect. I hate when people see me or when I watch my family members cry. Why should the first time you see someone in years, decades be when you are crying. The best part is when they leave right after 1 part. Maybe they have to get back to work or they child needs to be picked up, I don't know. But these are the same people who say how much they are about them, how sorry they are for them, these people just leave after saying one last good bye. To me that's a little rude. A person had taken their last breath, you knew them, now they are gone. That's the reality of it. So I will continue asking the same question until I get my answer... why?