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What the fellows do and how they find out their S/o harms themselves - ~~~~
Lawrence: He began to get suspicious of his S/o with their new behaviour or how maybe they started to wear longer bagger clothes. "I noticed some marks on your arm, and I'm worried because I care about you. Are you hurting yourself?" Even if his S/o evades the question or lies, he'll give them space to talk since that could be the first step in their recovery.
Ethan: Since self-injury is usually done to the arms, legs, or torso, he's pretty watchful so he caught a glimpse of those injured areas. "I can see that you're in a lot of pain. Do you want to tell me what's been going on?" He'll invite his S/o to talk about what's causing their pain. He'll listen until they're done sharing and won't jump in to offer advice or try to relate it to his own experiences.
Harry: He knows what to look out for, so when he noticed cuts, scratches, burning of the skin, piercing the skin with a sharp object, hitting or punching themselves, or even pulling out their own hair, Harry knows something is wrong. "What gives you the urge to self-harm?" Harry will focus his questions on the emotional triggers preceding the self-harm and the effects following it.
Eugene: He began to notice when his S/o had unexplained injures or scars on their arms or torso. "I will do anything I can, but I can't help you alone. Can we get you some support?" Stopping his S/o's behaviours and learning new coping mechanisms usually requires the help of a mental health professional. Eugene's priority is to guide his S/o to a clinician to get help.
Zion: He noticed his S/o didn't like showing any skin. They constantly kept themselves covered and wore long-sleeved shirts, even if the weather calls for different clothing choices. "It's okay if you don't want to talk about it now. I'm here whenever." If his S/o isn't ready to jump into a lengthy conversation or agree to get help, he'll respect that and won't force it, even if it takes weeks or months.
Jay: Since he's nosy, he noticed blood stains appearing on his S/o's clothing or on tissues. He didn't point it out but kept an eye on his S/o. "I don't know what you're going through, but I can tell you're having a really hard time right now." If he gets scared for his S/o's life, he'll call the national suicide prevention hotline. (1-800-273-8255)
Judy: When her S/o keeps getting frequent injuries or scars, Judy would get suspicious, especially when her S/o claims it to be frequent accidents. Depending on the circumstances, Judy might call her S/o's family or take them to the emergency room.
Sue: Because Sue is the smart one and is pretty good at reading people, she'll be confused on why her S/o's mood or behaviour changed in a short period of time. She won't give her S/o any kind of ultimatum. Quitting self-harm requires more than willpower. She doesn't want her S/o feel more isolated, trapped, misunderstood, or powerless.
Hailey: Even though she's quiet, she'll notice her S/o isolating themselves away from the others or seeming irritable/depressed. She'd be nervous about having this conversation and would rehearse what she's going to say beforehand. She'll even be prepared to use supportive nonverbal communication if it comes to it.
Scarlett: Because she talks too much, she won't notice anything wrong with her S/o at first. The first sign she notices is how her S/o is quieter than normal and just zoned out a lot. If her S/o dismisses or reject what she says, that doesn't mean that her words had no effect on her S/o. These changed are often cumulative and take time.
