Through the blur

MUSINGS OF A BROKEN HEART

Every person's life has stages. Whether they accept or agree to those is an entirely different matter. Sometimes they don't even feel that they are going through a stage while they are actually in it only to turn back years later and realize the existence of that stage. If it's not making any sense, assume it is also a Stage. But the matter of fact is that these stages are important. How to deal with them is important, because they end up shaping who a person becomes.  A person may not realise the current stage or the importance of it, but years down the line, they realise how each facet of life shapes a person. A person's conditioned thoughts are a result of these stages. How they process life events and how they react in certain situations is a direct result of these facets.

Now, the question arises of the relevance of choosing this as the starting point of this story. Rest assured it is relevant and if it doesn't seem to, consider it the inner musings of the author. And, because each person is different maybe it won't make much sense. But if it does, there's hope that everyone takes away something from it and can imply it in some aspect of their life. 

A teenager's whole life can be broadly divided into three phases. Each phase gives some lessons, heartbreaks along with some people its simply impossible to imagine lives without. Sometimes people wonder what their life would have been without those heartbreaks and if given a choice would they do anything differently, and pondering upon this always tend to realize that no matter the outcome, they wouldn't do anything differently in life. Without the heartbreaks that shaped them, they wouldn't be themselves. The greater lessons in life are always learnt after the biggest setbacks. Sometimes to move ahead it is important to take two steps back. And when people take those two steps and see their life in retrospect, they realise it was a stage, albeit an important one

Coming back to the stages in a teen's life, every one of them has a character on the frontline, someone people put everything into. They may or may not be in their life at the present moment, but they give people the most beautiful gift anyone could ever get. They are essential for finding inner selves. The one true representation of themselves and not some thought up person conjured by other's thought. Those people are the ones that make a person realise the importance of identifying self and mitigating life's challenges. Each phase of a person's life is set up in a different time set.

The first phase usually begins when a person is twelve and freshly into high-school. This year is supposed to be the starting of all their new memories and a breakthrough from awkward selves they were in middle school. This year is going to be theirs, everyone is out to get the world, catch the prophetic butterfly, an opportunity they would be grabbing with their both hands outstretched and living a life they aren't sure how to. They are naïve, Inexperienced but have one thing in loads, HOPE and faith in the world that it is going to support their dreams no matter what. They have trust and they are ready to give hundred and fifty to everything that matters.

The second phase of Life is like a whirlwind romance. It ends almost as soon as it starts. Or maybe it seems to. The second phase of life begins with a person stepping out of their home for the first time in sixteen years. They are out of their comfort zone and the first phase of life evolves into the second. From the kid to being new at college. New experiences that are supposed to be waiting. From living in a dorm for the first time to learning how to share space, emotions and everything with people who are going to become your second family. For this time people aren't t just ready for new opportunities, at the height of puberty, people are ready to fall in love. Pretty evident, they still haven't outgrown all of their naivety. But Alas! love can't be controlled. People simply don't decide who they fall for. Love comes at the most unexpected time with the most unexpected person. It's a natural process and there's no stopping it. And people are usually gone past the point of no return by the time they realize the inevitable. This phase is the most significant in a person's life for it brings with it an emotional maturity that was previously not there. People realise the importance of giving and "being there" for someone. And when that someone becomes someone special is a mystery in itself.

The third phase of a persons life is difficult to comment upon unless someone has felt it themselves. Where it begins and where it ends, there isn't a clear boundary. This phase is marked by a sense of peace and acceptance of the self that was absent in the previous ones. By this time, as a new adult, a person has realized their wants and desires, gone through heartbreaks and gained a sense of self that they were previously unaware of. People have better control over their emotions and yet their insatiable hunger for new experiences and emotions dooms them. The decisions taken are sometimes contradictory to proper thought and what the normal course of action should've been and maybe they don't know any better. But that's life, for if a person knew what the future held, wouldn't it take away all the excitement from the ride called life. And yet, these are important for these lead to people finding their happily ever after. 

Y.rai