The Art of Feminism

"not all men"

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today we will talk about the "not all men" bs 🙄

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"my aesthetic is women supporting women"

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here's a lot of reasons why the statement "not all men" is wrong.

let's start from how the hashtag "not all men" actually started.

remember the #metoo movement? a very important movement about women speaking up about their experiences of sexual assault.

this bs of #notallmen happened then and also 5 months ago.

when in the uk, a 33 year old women, sarah everard was missing on her way home from a friend's home. a week later, her body was found, and a uk police officer was arrested under suspicion of murder and kidnapping. im sure you all have heard about this.

now hearing about sarah's story struck a chord within many women including myself. so on twitter these very brave women decided to share their stories about harassment.

what's really sad to say is that, people weren't posting and tweeting and going on protests because they were shocked about this. it was because it was far too predictable and every women can relate to it.

living in fear from the smallest of things such as going to the the grocery store is very normal for us.

fear for a women means something as simple as walking home from a friend's house, standing up to a man anywhere, or having the "audacity" to reject a man when he tries to ask you out.

when women went on social media and talked about their experiences, a bunch of men decided to go "how do we make this about us?"

and that's how the hashtag #notallmen started trending.

when you say #notallmen it basically just says to me that "hey women, i know that there are men out there who will hurt you and abuse you and rape you and you're clearly facing a lot of problems but hey, it's not my fault, okay? so im good."

if your first response to something like this is "this is not my fault!" then you know what...

it probably is.

you see when someone tells you about their experiences, you say "im so sorry that happened to you. how can i help?" or "you're so strong and im so proud of you." you encourage that person because it's not a small thing. they deserve encouragement for what they have gone through. they deserve love and care!

you don't say "not all men" you dumbass! saying "not all men" when someone talks about their experiences is like saying "okay, but it wasn't me, so it's okay right?" to their face.

yes, we know and realise that every man that walked this earth isn't a bad person. we never said they were. so i don't know why this hashtag is trending.

we never said anything like "every man is a rapist" or something like that. so why put words into our mouths and act like we said something like that. i don't know why this "not all men" thing is going on. cuz we never said that.

when we say "men" we are generalising! get that in your heads. it's just a generalisation because of the majority of men who are bad people.

we don't need obvious hashtags alright?! we don't need hashtags like #hessaistoxic cuz WE KNOW! okay. just like that we don't need #notallmen okay? cuz we know, it's a GENERALISATION!!!

understood?

the fact that this happened when the black community were trying to make their voices be heard with #BlackLivesMatter and a bunch of idiots started making #AllLivesMatter

we fucking know okay, we know all lives matter but the black community are talking about their experiences and the problems they face due to stupid racist bastards. so making hashtags like #ALM is like invalidating them.

and this happened with the "straight pride parade" you have the queer community trying to be heard, trying to be celebrated, trying to be safe and comfortable. and you're out there like "we're here too!" yeah we know. but stop making everything about yourself.

not everything is about you, i think people need to stop making these stupid hashtags and be more caring and polite and compassionate to those who have experiences with abuse.

it's okay if everything's not about you. let's be a bit more kind and stop invalidating people's experiences and stopping their voices from being heard!

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im going to make a few more chapters about this! so that people can get why #notallmen is wrong.

and if someone does say it, y'all know a lot of reasons why it's wrong and you can give them these all reasons.

cuz if 1 reason doesn't make sense to them, another one will.

i'll be posting part 2 tomorrow :)