Gift: Gems
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Camilo having an Identity Crisis and going to Y/n for help.
I have done research but I don't know if this will be accurate, please tell me if I do anything wrong and how to correctly write it.
This Y/n will be some-what of the therapy family member/friend, she has an area in her room where people can go and speak with her in private. Dolores cannot hear anything in it and depending on what they're talking about, different gems appear on the walls.
Labradorite - the gemstone of magic. It will enhance your inner awareness, self-discovery, and coincidence control. It encourages self-awareness of inner spirit & intuition
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[Recently, Camilo would distance himself from others after he shifts into someone else. After a while he seeks help from Y/n, standing in front of her door, debating if he should knock. When he finally does, the door open shortly and Y/n at him with a comforting smile.]
Y/N
Hola, Camilo, what can I help you with?
CAMILO
Uh, can we talk in private..?
Y/N
Of course, come in.
[She leads him to the comfort room and sits him down, the gems change to labradorite. Y/n makes him a drink to help calm him down.]
Y/N
Want me to sit next to you?
[Camilo nods and she sits down, he rests his head on her shoulder and closes his eyes.]
CAMILO
I-I... Uh.. I..
Y/N
Take your time, you don't need to say everything all at once, conejito.
[Camilo stays quiet but cuddles into Y/n more. After a while, Camilo starts crying a little, causing Y/n to hold him closer.]
Y/N
Let it out, Camilo. Let it out..
CAMILO
I.. I just don't know who I am. I have to look at a picture to remember what I look like! I can't remember if I'm myself anymore.. I don't know what to do.. Is the way I feel like this because of who I am, or because of what I was taught to feel? I repeat things that I'm not supposed to do, over and over.. And I don't remember them until I do it again. I change myself so people around me feel happy and I don't know what I feel anymore.. I get anxious randomly and I don't know why.
[Y/n continues to hold him and stroke his back while he rants.]
Y/N
When you find yourself making the same mistakes over and over again, you most likely try to avoid guilt and shame. You may not feel the emotions because the actions you take avoid the experiences that trigger them. Do you anticipate and avoid the feeling? [Camilo nods.] You're so used to adjusting for the anticipated reactions of your family that you don't see your emotional programming kicking into gear. You will change to avoid the disapproval of others. Emotions are contagious, so listening for and recognizing other's emotions will resonate with your own experiences. Their emotions will trigger your natural emotions. In your authentic self where you are true to who you are, you will use this reaction to empathize and feel compassion toward another. Others will easily see the shift while you will experience it as an authentic reaction. You will have hidden your real self that your friends are used to seeing. None of it is your fault, conejito. I'm going to ask you some questions, all right? You don't have to answer all of them, but please do truthfully.
CAMILO
Okay..
Y/N
What five words would you use to describe yourself?
CAMILO
Uh, dramatic, people-pleaser, impertinent, loud and social?
Y/N
Is your happiness dependent on others being happy?
CAMILO
Most of the time..
Y/N
Are you unable to separate your thoughts and feelings from the thoughts and feelings of your family? [Camilo nods.] Do you find it hard to set goals?
CAMILO
I guess, other than the ones that are already there.
Y/N
Are you uncomfortable being by yourself?
CAMILO
Yes, I usually try to shift into someone else whenever I can so I'm not myself... That's probably why I forget what I look like..
Y/N
Do you feel there is something wrong with you, but are you not quite sure what? [Camilo nods again.] All right, that's all of the questions. Camilo, I think you're going through an Identity Crisis, they are quite common and usually happen for people around your age. You are not alone, no matter what, okay? I may not know exactly what it's like but you can talk to me about it whenever it gets too much for you to handle. [Camilo looks up at her.] You don't have to say anything, if you want to come in here and just cuddle, then we can do that. But, that is your decision, you do what you want, not what you're told to do or what you feel you have to do. You, nor your feelings will never be a burden to me. You will always be you, no matter what, I will always accept you. Don't forget that, okay?
[Camilo stares at her and nods, hugging her tightly, letting out the last of his tears, eventually falling asleep. Y/n smiles at him, picks him up and brings him to her bed, laying him down and putting the covers over him. She kisses his head and stands up to leave, but Camilo doesn't let go of her hand. She chuckles softly and lays with him, cuddling him and falls asleep.]
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I hope that any of this makes sense and that I got the information right. I apologize if I didn't, please correct me on anything that I wrote wrong.
Sources I got most of the information from:
https://www.yourtango.com/experts/dr-stephen-van-schoyck/signs-of-an-identity-crisis-how-to-embrace-your-real-self
https://www.supportiv.com/how-to-help/how-to-support-a-friend-identity-crisis
