The ANOINTED CHOSEN BRIDE

Chapter 10 God is a Good Good Father

Closing your eyes and using boundless imagination attempt to envision the most perfect father possible. It is harder to do than initially thinking it is relatively easy to do. See once your imagination starts gaining momentum, reality and critical thinking distorts and dismisses he thought immediately. Leaving you back at the starting point.

Your foundation of the idea what a father would be like, immediately springs forth from your own father or if you are fatherless any father figure which featured in your life. As no being is a hundred percent perfect, this seems not to be a foundation to start at. Likewise, the negative characteristics you have experienced from a father figure, and trying to meet the complete opposite, also seems to be all in vain. For even the less desired actions may lead to positive results. For example, lovingly disciplining an unruly child, brings forth pleasurable behavior to everyone coming in contact with a well-mannered child.

It seems an almost impossible task to try to envisage a perfectly good father.

A good starting point would be to look at the father of all fathers. The one who created all fathers. As man was created in the likeness and image of God, all human beings have a piece of the creator Himself within them.

To separate the essence of a good father from that which sin defiled seems to be the key to establishing what a good father would be like.

A father provides for his family. But how is he to fully accomplish this in the way it is meant to be done and to his full potential without a wife and mother at his side. The word teaches us that it is the woman that attracts wealth and riches.

A father's actions should be guided and directed by love. Even the best intentions can be spoiled by wrong drivers. When a child, with limited knowledge and experience, should say ask for something that may cause harm to themselves or others, the father who has food intentions but mislead drivers would give into the request. Thinking I want my child to be happy and content. Not giving thought of the implied implications and detrimental consequences. However, when the driver is guided by love, the father would from love and care for his child know that it would not be in the child and other's best interest to give into such demand. If viable the father would in love, explain to the child the consequences that is being avoided by giving into such a request. At times it may be that the father would not explain the reasons for the decline. Purely because the child is not ready to receive detailed information which could lead to harm the child psychologically or cause trauma to the child. The father may also refrain from giving reasons to teach the child the value of trust, respect and patience.

The establishing of trust between father and childis essential for a healthy relationship. The child should know that the father is a stature of integrity and canbe trusted. That the father is trustworthy in honoring his word. Forexample, if a child says he needs tennis shoes for practice, and the fathersays he will get it for the child. Thechild trusts the father's word and therefore will not continuously ask fortennis shoes until the child gets it. The child with in trust wait for the father to bring it. The father will also reflect trust to thechild as the child matures and according to the child's capacity to deal withit. A father would not let histhree-year-old son go alone to a public lavatory. Yet a father would also not have the need to accompanyhis enabled twenty-year-old son with such a similar simple task.