How to Create Your Perfect Girlfriend (On The Karma of Love by Michael Roach)

Chapter 2: Be a Farmer of Love

Is it possible to "harvest" a girlfriend like you harvest crops on a farm?

Yes! It is possible as long as you know what karmic seeds to plant.

Most men are "hunters" when they look for a partner. They forage aggressively on dating sites and nightclubs, but their chances are like hit-or-miss. They may find her, or they may not find her.

Being a "farmer," however, is a different matter altogether.

Unlike hunting, farming is a much more robust and fruitful process.

In the previous chapter, we demonstrated that good karma is the prerequisite for all good things happening to you. Therefore, you only have to plant good karma and enjoy the results later.

It sounds good, but how can you practically get a girlfriend with that?

Let us consider a good example which illustrates just that.

Planting the Seed for Love

This story comes from The Karma of Love by Geshe Michael Roach.

Ann is an architect in New York City. She is also a Yoga teacher.

Her life is one that many would admire. With a respectable job and a good salary, she lives in a lovely apartment not affordable by many. She also has a work-life balance that allows her to teach yoga.

The only trouble is: she is single, and she feels lonely.

She has tried many different things. She has visited various dating sites and has been to numerous nightclubs. However, she either finds them too geeky or doubts their seriousness for a relationship.

So she approaches Geshe Michael and asks what she should do.

Geshe Michael says neither the Internet nor the nightclubs can help her.

She must plant the karma of love to get a boyfriend. Without good karma, she cannot find a boyfriend wherever she goes. But with it, the boyfriend will knock on the door even if she stays home.

So Geshe Michael tells her to "adopt" an old lady in a nursing home.

At least once a week, she shall visit the lonely old lady for about an hour.

Spend time with her. Listen to her stories, even if she has heard the same story from her 100 times. Bring her little presents on her birthday. Make the old lady feel the love you want from your boyfriend.

Ann is a little sceptical, but she carries out the plan anyway.

Then, about half a year later, she meets the boy.

It happens most unexpectedly. It is not in the nightclub, nor on the Internet. Ann is teaching yoga as usual, and the boy attends the class. In other words, he comes into her life out of the blue.

And then, after some more months of dating, they get married.

The Karma for a Bestseller

The author of The Karma of Love, Geshe Michael, has a similar story.

He has always wanted to write a book and become a bestselling author.

So he asks his teacher what he should do. The teacher says, "Help Art to publish his book!" Art is the teacher's favourite student, and Michael is always jealous of him.

So, if you want to publish a book, help another to do the same.

"Oh, come on!" Michael protects, but he listens to his teacher anyway.

Michael painstakingly helps Art to type his book. There is no computer available at that time. Worse yet, Art changes his manuscript three times so that Michael has to type it more than once.

"I have finally done the book for Art," Michael tells his teacher.

"No, it is not a book. It is only a manuscript." The teacher replies.

"What? You want me to publish it?" "Do you still want to write a famous book?" Michael cannot argue against his teacher, so he helps Art to publish the manuscript.

Sadly, it costs a lot, as self-publishing is not yet very popular.

So Michael works for six months to get the money to publish it.

Finally, Michael publishes the book, and then a miracle happens. One week later, one of the largest publishers in the world approaches him and asks him to write a book on Buddhism in business.

And so Michael starts writing his first book, The Diamond Cutter.

The book is now an international bestseller in over 25 languages.

The Formula of Karma Creation

These two stories illustrate the four steps of karma creation:

1. Decide what you want and resolve to help someone who has the same desire or faces the same problem.

2. Find a person you want to help, and outline a plan to help them, even though you may not completely solve their problem.

3. Carry out the task faithfully and never violate any promise you have made to the person you are trying to help.

4. Regularly savour the good deeds you did as you daydream. Remind yourself that helping others is the ultimate way to help yourself.

Out of these four steps, the last step is the most important.

Motivation weighs much more on the karmic scale than the actual result.

If you are compassionate to the people you help and deliberate in your planning, it will have much bigger karma than someone who gives away a large sum of money without thinking much about it.

In other words, karma increases with how often you think about the deed.

Sadly, most people are lazy, so they often neglect this step.

If you don't do it, it will delay the good results you want. Many people have done good things, but their lives are miserable because they don't know about the secret of compassionate intention.

So you must train your mind to savour the good things you do.

"OK, but how should I 'think' as I recall the good things I did?"

Chapter 6 contains a step-by-step guide that teaches you how to do this. It reveals a proprietary meditation that only takes about ten minutes to complete, and you can do it anytime, anywhere.

Now you may ask, "But how do I get or change my girlfriend with that?"

Let's return to the subject and see how it applies to relationships.