bruh, big rant chapter moment, buckle up.
i love my roommate, we're almost through with our second year living together/knowing each other. we have a lot of fun together, we're working through narcos when we're both home from work because we're a little in love with pedro pascal, etc.
HOWEVER
my dad is really good about teaching me important world stuff, like money and everything, and one of the lessons he really likes to emphasize is balance. as in, you're a student before anything else. then you're an employee because you need money. make sure you have some you time, don't overwork yourself, stuff like that.
last year, i got a bf and he was coming over to our dorm too much and i was struggling to learn the balance with this new element of life. my roommates had a talk with me because they, women, were uncomfortable with him, man, being in our dorm all the time, even if they did like him. makes sense, right? we worked on it and we're a lot better now :)
my roommate in question ALSO got a bf last year, a couple months after i did. now, i was a straight-a student in high school for the most part (that b KILLED me but i'm fine now), and my roommate is the same way. this is getting annoying, let's call her haley. idk why haley, idk why that spelling, but here we are.
so HALEY is mfing ALSO a freak about grades, but she's worse than me because i've chilled out a lot. she (and also my bf actually) really freaks out when she's gonna get a b because she wants to keep her gpa above a 3.5 so she can keep her scholarship. understandable. however. i have gotten probably 3-5 bs in college AND A C and i currently have a 3.8. chill. you're gonna be okay.
so she's grade sensitive no matter what i tell her and last year (i'm so sorry i'm all over the place rn) she also had a balance problem a bit later in the semester than i did and she was kinda with her boyfriend literally ALL THE TIME and my other roommate and i called her out on it and gave her a talk, just like they did me, and she got all defensive. she doesn't like that. but she also said she'd work on it. yeah, okay, sure.
this year we're in an apartment and we still have separate rooms but the difference is we have a kitchen. haley only had one in person class and it was with her bf. when she wasnt in class (with him), she was at work or, drumroll, in our apartment, in her room, with him, with her door locked (?????). no because i literally know they're not doing anything sketchy because she's really uncomfortable doing that when there's people home (me) so why tf does she always need to lock the door, what, does she think i'm gonna run in there without knocking or asking and catch them... cuddling?? huh???
anyway, her balance this year is so much worse than last year, which is saying something because she had to take incompletes in like 3 of her classes and finish them over the summer (and i think she still hadn't finished one by the time the fall semester started but i'm not sure). then DURING the fall semester, she's CONSTANTLY with him and thus hardly doing any homework, so she's staying up super late to try to do hw and not getting enough sleep. then she complains about not getting enough sleep and being too stressed with classes and work and also skips a lot of classes BECAUSE she's tired or stressed.
so basically digging herself a deeper hole right?
and i'm just pissed at her the whole semester because i didn't have a problem with the bf before, he's fine, but i don't want him living with me. he's literally one of my roommates at this point, he's ALWAYS here.
and they're always ignoring me because they're together, which is fine, more time for me to be with my bf etc., but then they had two massive, near-breakup fights within a week and i was obviously the one that had to be there for her but after the conflict resolved they just went right back to how they were.
