I Don't Belong Anywhere.

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Sitting on your chair, Eating your lunch alone. Listening to all the gossip behind you. Voices in your head are telling you, ''Loner! Freak! A Nobody! You Don't Belong Anywhere! Why Do You Even Try?!?''


A tear falls down your cheek, You catch it. And look around with hesitation..Making sure no one saw you. You get up from the chair, Making a scrape noise with the chair, from the floor. Everyone silent. Staring at you. Not just a stare. A hateful stare. What did I do wrong?


You walk down the halls, The hall is so quite. Not even a peep. Everyone is staring and whispering to there friend. What the hell? You listen to your own footsteps. As you make it to your locker/hook. Without falling. You open the locker. You look into the mirror that is on the side. 'What are they staring at?' You thought to yourself.


Your home now, You sit on your bed. And decided to text your friends. 'Supposedly Friends' You say ''Hi, what's up? :)'' 15 Minutes later, you get a text. Only a short un talkative answer. You felt like you bothered them. So you put your phone down and sighed. You realized you don't belong anywhere. Not even in your school, Your home, Your group of friends. Where Do I Belong?



What to do when you don't fit in:

Be kind to yourself.

You're not alone in this feeling, regardless of how intense, frequent, or unique to you it may feel. I remember attending a conference last spring where the speaker asked the audience, "who here feels like they don't fit in?" Over half the audience raised their hands. You're not the only one who feels like you don't belong, there are tons of us. So first and foremost, be kind to yourself. Because even if you're the one person in the world who really, truly, absolutely has no place, you're still going to be stuck with you. Love and accept yourself fully, even when it feels like no one else could possibly.


2) Stop trying and, instead, notice what makes you different.

Maybe you need a new set of friends or to spend less time with your family. Maybe you're not dating the right person. Maybe you'd rather be at a cultural event than out drinking. Whatever it is, just make note of it and create better alignment in your life, work, and relationships going forward.


One of the most common mistakes we make when we feel like we don't belong is to try and fit in. If you feel like you don't belong, there's a very good chance you don't, and this isn't a bad thing! Pay attention to what specifically triggered that feeling for you. Is it that you don't care about the things others do? Is it that you're spending time with people who are your opposite? Is it that you don't enjoy the activity at hand? Not fitting in doesn't mean anything's wrong with you or the people around you, it just means you're different.



3) Embrace the truth of who you are.

Here's a truth I've learned that's changed my world: I don't fit in and I'm not supposed to. I'm not here to fit in, and that's okay. I'm here to be my unique and amazing self, and you are, too. Whatever makes you different, that's exactly who you're here to be, not someone that "fits" with everyone else.


So tell me...

Where are you trying to "fit in" when you should be embracing what makes you unique and different? Where are you softening your edges, doing or talking about things you don't really enjoy, or shrinking yourself to fly under the radar? Where do you need to change or shift to create more alignment in your life and relationships?

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