we are all born
so beautiful
the greatest tragedy is
being convinced that we are not
we are all born beautiful - rupi kaur
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What is beauty? What is considered beautiful? Beauty strikes us all, either we are men or women. We'll go outside everyday and see handsome men and pretty women. We're all subconsciously tied to a big concept of beauty, the "beauty standard". It privileges the well structured and naturally pretty, and tears down all the opposite. But, what really is beautiful?
When little, we often see ourselves as beautiful, yet not understanding what it really meant, and not knowing how the truth will affect us later. Through five and 10 years old I would've called myself the most beautiful girl in the world. I loved my curly brown hair and my dark brown eyes. I loved my small nose. I loved the small mole I have on my face. I loved my lips, pink and small I loved that I was slim and short; all was in complete harmony.
When puberty hit I looked different I was not short and slim anymore. I was tall and curvy and my hair was not as curly as it was before, the curls dropped, making my hair straighter. My lips were no longer small and my nose got big. Everything I liked about myself, completely changed. I didn't like curvy, I didn't like tall, I didn't like medium curly hair, I didn't like bigger lips, I didn't like that I didn't love myself. Where did the beautiful girl go, the one I've known my whole life, the confident and pretty girl. She was gone. No beauty was here. Just an empty sack off a not conformed teenager.
All that was beauty to me completely changed. I didn't like to be seen, by my friends, by boys, by anyone. I wanted my questions answered. Was I still beautiful? What really is beauty? Years passed and I thought that I had the answer and that I was still beautiful. Many people told me so, but beauty. Oh it's not so simple.....
Beauty can be anything, beauty is versatile, she can be tall, she can be short, she can be slim, she can be fat, she can be curvy, she can be smart, she can be dumb, she could be funny, she can be serious, she could look at you in the eyes and tell you all your truth, and the truth this, we' re all beautiful we just have to dig deep.
Beauty is not something so simple as our looks, it's something so complex I don't think my words could describe it to it's fullest extent. Yu know someone is beautiful when you are near them, you feel that overwhelming sensation of warmth, being safe, seen, heard, loved. A beautiful person cares.
The "beauty standard" is not beautiful, classifying and objectifying people just because of their looks? Is not good. I strongly believe everyone with a good heart is beautiful. I hope, one day I could consider myself beautiful too.
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