A COMPLETE GUIDE TO GETTING A GUY

AVOID THE ENEMIES TO LOVERS TROPE

This particular trope is a very tricky one that's why I always say it's best to avoid it, its not like how they do it in the books or movies, transitioning from enemies to lovers is quite hard.

That's why if you like or have a crush on a guy, it's best not to go the bullying route, that is when the both of you throw words at each other or when you are always arguing because trying to turn that into love is a long process.

However, if by some kind of miracle you fall for your absolute enemy, there is still hope.

I have personally had some enemies to lovers connections before, I mean I think it has happened with three different guys but we were just purely enemies that caught feelings but I didn't pursue anything beyond that.

I honestly think it's cause it's such a messy situation cause how do you transition from thinking he is an absolute idiot to love?

I guess I didn't like them enough to want to go beyond that but for my girlies that are absolutely sure they are in love, you are in the right place, trust.

Now,

You like him yeah?

Okay, first of all in the transitioning process, you have to

"Immediately appear more girly."

Like I don't mean overly bubbly or anything like that.

I mean girly in the sense of the way you dress and behave.

The reason why it's the enemies to lovers trope is because he doesn't really see you like a girl.

You have to open his mind up to the fact that you are a girl that's an actual girl.

Dress warmer and I don't mean bombard yourself with pink or anything like that because if you are like me that only likes black and darker color clothes this is a bit of a challenge.

What I mean is, wear more gowns and skirts, paint your nails, put on lipgloss, smell like flowers, rainbows and everything nice, you get my drift?

If you are the type of girl that doesn't really like skirts or gowns and you just like baggy clothes, then focus more on how you smell, make your hair, look for softer clothes.

I don't like the idea of changing your self to make a guy like you, I prefer improving yourself to be a better version of you.

Anyways, once you are done bringing out the girl in you, the next thing to do is to

"Minimize the arguing and throwing words at each other."

That is when you would normally see him and call him an absolute idiot, try and say a compliment out of the blue very casually.

Something like "I like your shirt today."

See? Not too much, slowly easing into it and if he says anything dumb back, don't even pay any attention, just shake your head and get back to whatever you were pretending to do.

The first step is complete, you have successfully started breaking the cycle of throwing outright insults at each other.

Then after that start to appear more serious and causal, Instead of the normal you that argues and fights with him, try making normal conversations, maybe about something he is interested in, you can start by just  asking a question.

Even if he says something dumb, shake your head, "smile" and go back to what you were pretending to do.

Smile because remember you are trying to appear more girly.

Just continue the process, very soon he'll start reciprocating the energy and you'll start having actual conversations instead of arguments like you usually did.

You can still joke around and play a bit with him just to make sure things aren't too serious but remember don't let the insults happen anymore.

Anytime he says something that's not nice, just tell him you actually don't like what he said.

Just so he'll register that he can't play with you like that anymore.

Now, slowly the transition begins, then you can start following through with the other lessons in this book to get your man.

In the enemies to lovers trope, you must first transition to friends before you can start thinking about how to get the guy.

Remember my guide is tested and trusted so you don't worry, it will work.

From personal experience, it took a while to get to friends then to "When he actually likes you" but when it did, there were among the most entertaining scenes of my love life to live through.