The male species are actually such simple individuals, getting them to fall for you can be easily done once you know the right way to go about it.
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Now before you start overthinking, let me just tell you now "DON'T"
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When a guy isn't talking to you and I mean when there is no actual problem and he just decides not to talk to you, then you don't need to panic.
One of my philosophies in life is that "it is just not you"
What I mean is, don't feel like he won't notice if you give him the same energy cause he will, even if it takes a little longer for him to break, just make sure you don't break first.
What to do when he isn't talking to you is to do absolutely "Nothing"
And I don't care if he is a freaking greek god that you are absolutely obsessed with, when he isn't talking to you all of a sudden for no reason, you simply "IGNORE"
This stage is particularly very crucial in determining the dynamic between you two and pushing when he has decided to stop is a losing battle.
Even if you are just acquaintances that say hi to each other sometimes then all of a sudden he stops doing that then you stop too.
It's a mental game that you need to win, don't overthink, don't get scared, simply keep it out of your mind.
Now because I know how sometimes it does take a while for him to realize he needs to start talking to you again, there are ways to speed up the process without actually talking to him or acknowledging his presence.
One, which is my all times favorite and go to move is the "DON'T I LOOK GOOD?"
This move basically means posting a picture or video of yourself where you just look too good, that is if it's on social media.
You can even allow only him to see it then pretend like other people are seeing it as well with status privacy, private stories and all that, that's if you want to, I mean if you look good then you can as well post it for everyone to see.
When deciding what to post, I always just use a face card that is a picture or video of my face but what I always say is know your strengths.
Post something about yourself that you know will grab his attention even if it's a talent of yours or something trendy that you know he is interested in.
I always say however that there is a thing line between "love" and "lust"which should not be crossed.
Always carry yourself with respect before expecting another person to respect you cause I know some of my girlies out there might want to post something sexy, a little sexy is okay but don't over do it cause it can cost you your whole game.
There is a time and pace for everything and when "too much sexy" is needed, I'll let you know, that's if I ever get around to writing it.
Okay back to the move, so basically it's just posting to grab his attention, this can be done in person and I have personally done it a few times in person, where I dress really good because I know I am going to see him but I still don't talk to him.
The amount of times he'll be looking, trust me. It usually doesn't take much time after that to get a text or a conversation.
When it does happen however which it will, make sure to be very normal, act like nothing happened in the first place and you didn't even notice.
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An example:
Person : Hey
You: Hey
Person: You haven't spoken to me in a while.
You: Really?
Person: Yeah
You: Well I have been busy lately.
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"Yeah busy plotting."
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Anyways you get my drift, straight answers, minimal smiling, if it's a text don't reply immediately or take it up a notch and drive him crazy by leaving it on read for a couple minutes then reply after.
What you are doing is slowly triggering his natural 'Chaser' instinct.
That's it and I assure you before he would think to stop talking to you again, it will take something really big, because you indirectly made him know that you won't be chasing even if you are.
The battle of getting the guy is mental games, don't let anyone tell you that it isn't because the only place you'll end up thinking like that is in the hands of a man who will take you for granted and will think he can get away with anything.
This is why it's important to stand firm and not look desperate.
Let's run this again shall we?
WHAT TO DO WHEN HE ISN'T TALKING TO YOU?
• Ignore, don't act bothered and reciprocate the same energy at all times.
