The male species are actually such simple individuals, getting them to fall for you can be easily done once you know the right way to go about it.
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Yesss!
Let me tell you, the worst thing you can ever do or being overly nice to guys cause best believe they will play with you.
One thing men have a lot of is the audacity especially in this generation.
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You need to have a bullshit radar and spot that shit from a mile away.
Now when I say mean, I don't mean being a a generally rude and awful person, I mean never playing about yourself and your standards just because you like him.
"THE ABSOLUTE RULES TO BEING MEAN"
Rule number one:
[Never go above and beyond for a guy]
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Don't go out of your way to please him, don't wait up for his call when you know you should be in bed sleeping, don't agree to a date that's going to leave you stressed because it clashes with what you have to do for the day, do you get my drift?
Don't do things to please him, he should be pleasing you especially in the beginning stages.
Yes you are allowed to be nice once in a while when he has really done his big one for you but give absolutely nothing when he does the bare minimum.
Rule number two:
[Don't ever play about how you should be treated]
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Make sure he is treating you right from the beginning and you don't even have to ask to be treated right, you just use the reward and withdrawal method and if he still isn't getting it then you can tell him straight.
Reward and withdrawal method is simply when he does right by you, goes out of his way for you, gets you presents, compliments you, just generally nice behavior, you reward him. Be appreciative, show your thanks (not too much tho, lol just trust him) the harder he thinks you are to please, the more he is on his best behavior.
Withdrawal is simply withdrawing when he acts up, when he wants to start playing in your face or speaking to you disrespectfully, simply shut it down and go silent on him, if you can't completely go silent, keep your energy completely restricted to the point that he will put 2 and 2 together.
Rule number three:
[Don't be afraid to cut it off completely]
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Now look it might be hard but let me tell you, if he can't stop acting up, or just generally doing things you don't like and you have even gotten past reward and withdrawal, you've even gone past the point of speaking to him about it and he is still acting up?
Girl, those are intentional behaviors and the last rule of being mean I can give to you is cutting it that shit off completely. I promise you it's not worth it, it gets worse over time and if you can't get his love and respect, leave with your self respect intact.
Cut it off and look, let me let you in on a secret, men almost always come back, it might take years or months or some days, but there is a 98% chance he will hit you up again and whether you choose to take him back or not is totally up to you but make sure he is coming back on his best behavior.
Go no contact and I promise he will get the message that you don't play like that and if he doesn't come back, it's better that way because you saved yourself the trauma.
Live by these words "if it's meant for me it will find you again and if it isn't, it wasn't meant to be."
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