Does being aroace make people fall in love with you or something? My girlfriend and I have like twenty people total in love with us. We're obviously dating so we don't wanna date anyone else, and we're aroace, so even if we weren't in a QPR together we probably wouldn't date those people.
Like I know that I'm pretty but I didn't think I was THAT pretty. Like idk if allo people want people to have crushes on them but I don't, my girlfriend doesn't, it feels weird. People say I should be flattered, but I'm not? I feel kinda, not gross but like weirded out that SO MANY people choose ME to have a crush on. Like-why me? There's so many people out there and you chose ME? How does this work. Ive rejected people in the past, but I'm told that I'm too rude, but if I'm not 'rude' then they don't leave. And if they don't leave, then I'm leading them on. WHAT. maybe I'm not understanding this but- why? Just- why? It might be because I don't get 'real' relationships as, I've only been in three in my life, and the two before my current one lasted like two weeks maximum. So I don't know what 'real' dating is like, I just know that when I was in a 'real' relationship, I didn't like it, that's when I started thinking I was in the lgbtq+ community and now I KNOW I'm aroace.
And why do people always see it as "I have commitment issues" or "I haven't met the right person yet" like I don't need a relationship to be happy. I don't want a 'real' relationship. I don't want to live my life confined to another person, I wanna live, like I'll never live again, which is exactly what I'm doing. Plus, it's really weird for you, people over the age of 30, to talk about minors getting married and having kids. Like do you KNOW what you have to do to make kids? DISGUSTING THINGS.
gross gross things.
This is why I love QPRs. You get to set your boundaries. We're girlfriends but we can be considered friends, we wanna live together but have separate rooms, we wanna get married but hug instead of kiss, cats instead of kids, yada yada, and apparently that HURTS people?? Like no two people live the same lives. Let me live. It's not like I'm doing that now? And I thought that maybe you would be appreciative? People around my age do...gross things. And do impulsive things in the name of 'love'. But I'm not going to. Because I don't like romance. I don't want romance. I don't want to live how you think I should. I want to live how I wanna live.
