The Transcendental: The Church Project

Growth and Elevating Consciousness

March 12, 2024

I think this is somewhat related but needed a new page. Do you thank people for 'treating you badly' or for their mistakes? And this is in relation to personal growth, growing in strength and power. And I think that's a bit of a tricky question to navigate, so I'd say yes and no. Yes in a context and no in another. 'Cause I like putting things into perspective for clarity.

What people really wanna be thanking these people for is just living their lives the way they do at a given point in time. This is the spiritual 'namaste' answer, to say 'your journey is your journey'. You thank people for sharing the journey with others. On a cosmic level, I think we don't really meet certain people by accident. The ones that we share an experience with that brought about significant changes and growth in our lives, there's something that bound us together on an energetic or spiritual level. 'Cause people would meet a lot of other people in their lives, but you ask them and they will be able to tell you a few they felt made an impact and assisted in their growth just by being who they were at the time. These are the people I am talking about when I said 'people who share the journey with you'.

But for the most part, what people have to thank for is the experience. 'Cause I think in terms of growth, experience is what makes that possible. But I would be careful about thanking people for the things they do when they're struggling or they have problems or issues, the things they do to other people. Maybe you could understand that when people struggle, they get corrupted or weakened, but we don't want people to take credit for the growth and be like: If I treated these people well, if I did the right thing, they won't grow. We don't want that because that would be to support the concept that pain is what makes people grow in strength and power. And it is not pain but the person tapping into that power source within themselves to rise above the situation, it is the person rising up to meet the truth in the elevation of consciousness that makes him grow.

'Cause we have this problem in communities where people think that they're supposed to let the pain transform them by way of hardening them or closing them off emotionally, making them cold, that people are supposed to swallow pain, but actually, if people want growth, they actually don't want to be hardened or be made cold by difficult experiences. 'Cause that's what actually impedes it, stunts it, keeps growth from taking place. Hardened people still have that pain inside them, and they have yet to transcend it, they have yet to have it purged and rise above it. When people are hardened, when they have that exterior, that's a defense or coping mechanism that was formed while in that difficult space. And people with pain inside them, if they want growth, they need to work with truth where they would have to see how the pain transformed them and how it wasn't supposed to transform them that way, how pain wasn't even supposed to be used for transformation, it's to be purged out 'cause that's where its place is, outside. When the person purges that out, that's when he rises or his consciousness gets elevated.

Growth owes it to the purging process, not to the pain. We don't want to be teaching people to take abuse, 'cause that's like saying people need to swallow pain to grow, and again, it's the reverse that swallowing pain does, it impedes growth.

Now, the purging process is not as simple as throwing plates and watching them break. I actually won't recommend it because people tend to think of the person who hurt them while holding the plate, and that's being subjective. And that's just really venting the frustration. But the pain is not gonna be purged that way. People need to be objective. The subject is not the person but what was done, the person's deed or action, and why that hurt you. And with that objectivity, you will then be diagnosing yourself, you will figure out what it is in you that bonds with pain, where does that pain attach itself. Think of pain as this sticky stuff and figure out where the sticky stuff landed and attached itself, where will tell you what you need to heal. Pain attaches itself to wounds, to fears, to insecurities. To the shadow aspects of the self.

Doing shadow work begins in acknowledging that you have wounds, fears, and insecurities like other people too. And it's strange but shadow work is not an emotional approach, it's actually very cerebral. This is not like breaking stuff kind of work, this is observing yourself like you're a twin, and you will be like going: Oh, she's experiencing that emotion because she doesn't see how she's being foolish and just silly and dramatic.

Shadow work is like that. You take on the role of the observer and the subject is yourself. When you heal your wounds, when you release fears, when you find security - true security, there's nothing that pain could attach itself to. No connection is established. This is not about 'proofing' because that would suggest that something's in place to protect you and then that's gonna take the blow. I'm talking about there's really nothing that would allow that to stick, there's nothing in you that recognizes that person's pain. 'Cause when people hurt others, they're just letting it be known what kind of wound they have, they tell you what kind of pain they have. And if you have the same wound, the same pain, it's gonna stick. Because your wounds would recognize each other and they will connect and bond over pain.

So, I wouldn't want to have people thinking it's good to be a hardened person. I would want to know that when somebody says they're stronger, that doesn't mean hardened, made cold by an experience. 'Cause that's not stronger, 'cause no growth took place. No purging happened. What I would want to see is peace and joy that comes with having gained clarity and truth.

For some people, it's a bit weirder. These are the people who have 99 problems and 98 belongs to other people. And they're not even working on that 1 problem. But these are the people who hold the promise of empathy. When they work on that 1 problem, you're gonna have these troubleshooters. They could just give you solutions after solutions to deal with your problems.

What's that 1 problem, you ask? They don't know yet what their sensitivity is for.

The clue is of course it's for social work. But this 1 problem is what's keeping them from being that social worker. Because they make other people's problems theirs, and because of that, they don't see the solution themselves. That 1 problem is what keeps them from coming home to themselves and being who they are. But once they're home, these people won't have problems. Because that's their gift - they know what the right thing to do is, and because they're home, they just do the right thing. And because they do the right thing, problems don't stick.