The Transcendental: The Church Project

Generational Trauma

March 22, 2024

People don't make the most out of getting offended. It's like opening a can of worms and just leaving the worms there like it's a taboo thing. When something offends you, that's an opportunity to examine a personal wound, which is the first step to healing. But when people get offensive and they think that's just throwing dirt on people, what I see is that they carry shame like it's a torch that gets passed on instead of light which is what a torch is a source of. But again, a lot of potential healing gets wasted when people self-sabotage and instead of throwing away shame, they take it onboard and even pass it on to others and that's how we get generational trauma in the community. When you throw dirt, that's a sign that you are carrying generational trauma in the form of shame.

Being offensive could be a good thing but only when your goal or intent is to throw away shame and not nurture shame. It's important to know what your goal or intention is.

The truth is offensive. A lot has been written about the truth. Like it's been said that if something is to be destroyed by the truth, then let it be destroyed. And I think the most popular will be that the truth hurts. But how we interpret these descriptions of truth is important. 'Cause paradoxically, lies and deception also hurt. But they hurt differently. The hurt that comes from truth and from lies, they work differently.

When the truth hurts, that hurt will be guiding you to look at what needs healing within. When the hurt feels offensive, it's either to do with intolerance or shame. When it's truth, the opportunity that opens up is for you to get rid of intolerance or shame. When it's lies, it would give you something to get rid of like intolerance or shame. You will be made to feel like you should be ashamed or that you should be intolerant of something.

There are two types of offensive people - one that speaks the truth and one that speaks lies. People who speak lies will be saying things just to create chaos and conflict. The intention is really just to hurt people with their words, it's just meant to be an attack of sorts. People who speak lies, they celebrate intolerance and shame in the community. They celebrate when they get people thinking that intolerance and shame should be nurtured.

What does nurturing intolerance or shame look like in communities? People will be telling you to do things a certain way or to act a certain way to avoid being shamed or being insulted. They will teach you to be afraid of people who speak lies and celebrate shame like it's a good thing.

Doing things right and having shame are not the same thing. Decency and having shame are not the same thing. Morality and having shame are not the same thing. Shame is born out of abuse or things not being done the right way and so people got hurt. Shame is born out of being hurt. It's something of trauma.

If you are doing things right, if you have decency and morality, you won't have shame onboard. You won't have images/reputation/appearances to keep up or maintain. People who have things like these to maintain are carrying trauma in their bloodline. These people are walking on eggshells or on tight ropes because of this trauma. But even trauma for a subject is considered a sensitive one bordering on taboo in the community, and that's why a lot of trauma gets buried and not addressed and healed.

Generational trauma breakers or healers are society's black sheep. They don't subscribe to shame and therefore they don't have concepts of shame. They appear to not have a care about the image or appearance they are projecting to the world. But these are the people who are healing generational trauma in the community just by being themselves. These people refuse to take shame onboard but that's because they know that shame is supposed to be thrown away because it degenerates spaces in the community, it makes for unhealthy spaces in the community for its people.