"WHEN WILL YOU GET MARRIED?"
"WHO'S TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOU WHEN YOU GET OLD?"
"YOU MUST GET A MAN OR A WOMAN, HAVE CHILDREN, AND BE HAPPY."
Not in one occasion have we not heard of these words.
These are some of the many questions and people say to a single man or woman when they reach the age of thirty and above.
Why? Are we not happy? Are you sure you are happy? What is the basis for happiness? Does being married an assurance or a security in attaining happiness? Is having children more pleasing to the eyes of God or will you, be condemned for having none? And why do people have to be bothered of your life and how you run it? Are they GENUINELY CONCERNED or BRAGGING their life they think is so perfectly fine they have a right to tell you, or imply yours is not?
Even others think that when you are single there must be something wrong with you or you're not as engaging as they are nor lovable enough to catch and hold someone else's attention and tie you in a status called married? What is then so special with people who have found endless love as against people who have not been found the love? When in truth those who are who they think themselves IN LOVE are in a matter of fact victims of THE LOVE GONE WRONG THERE IS NO TURNING BACK?
Being single or married is never the issue. It is the implication and the knowledge that being single connotes hardship, loneliness, and desperation. Or these misfortunes happen even when you are "HAPPILY MARRIED"?
People who are truly concerned over your being single must be wasting their time in believing that you will never be happy unless you tie the knot and have children. Whether or not you get a man or a woman, have children, and build a royal empire using your surname is a personal choice. Just the same that when you marry and build a family with no assurance that it will work, your husband or wife will not cheat on you, your children will not fail and forsake you, you will not lose your job, you will not die soon, you will not be alone in the end of this journey called life, YOU MADE A CHOICE!
SO THE NEXT TIME YOU WILL ASK "MARRIAGE QUESTIONS" THINK THINGS OVER. ARE YOU FOR CERTAIN WILL HAVE AND LEAVE THIS LIFE AS YOU PLANNED IT TO BE?
In the end, DON'T ASK THEM...RATHER ASK YOURSELF...
"WHY DID I GET MARRIED?"
"WILL I BE TAKEN CARE OF?"
"DID I END UP WITH THE RIGHT MAN OR WOMAN?"
"WILL I BE HAPPY UNTIL THE END?
When you get the answers and got content with your life... SPARE THE SINGLE ONES.
KEEP THE QUESTIONS TO YOURSELVES FOR WE, OURSELVES DO NOT KNOW THE ANSWERS.
GOD DOES.
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