Reflections & Revelations: A Journey Through My Thoughts

Finding Realness in a Superficial World

Money sometimes destroys much more than we think. In a relationship, finances can cause more damage than in "The Wolf of Wall Street." That's because money plays a huge role in the lives of two people. And that divides us. On one side, there are those who preach total dependence on the other. On the other side, those who talk about partnership. But in the end, what I want to share here is my reflection, my feelings.

So, I ask the question: what do men really want today? Are they looking for a partner to build a future together, or are they just trying to preserve tradition, being the one who brings the money home? It's a burning question because, you know what? Men sometimes seem as lost as we are, women who are sensitive and strong, who might have more "masculinity" in us than some men.
"Of course, I'm the man, of course, I'll pay." We've all believed in that, myself included. This idea is deeply ingrained in the culture they grew up in, with what they've seen around them. For them, it's just common sense, knowing how to behave. But you know what? Yes, finances are important in a relationship, but what often bothers men today is that they provide... and yet, we're not satisfied.
Gentlemen, I'm talking to you. Providing financial stability was perfect in a time when women didn't have access to education or careers. If she didn't have a degree or a job, yes, it was a dream for you to take care of everything. But for a woman who has worked hard, who has fought to get what she has, it's harder to impress her with money. If she grew up in a certain level of comfort, your gifts, flowers, or dinners are nice, but they're not everything. What we want is emotional stability. We want to find "home" in another person.

We want someone who will love us, even with a few extra pounds, who will always look at us with bright eyes, even when we're at our worst. A man who won't judge us for our mood swings due to our hormones. Because yes, it's time to normalize that! Our hormones fluctuate constantly: periods, pregnancy, menopause. And it's essential to teach our future sons to understand what women go through, because one day, they will be with women. Amen to that!
"Living on love and fresh water" isn't just a saying. For some of us, it's a way of life. Because yes, worthy men still exist. Thankfully, we work for our own money and not just to depend on someone. It's time to free ourselves from this financial slavery, from this idea that men have to handle everything. And if tomorrow, they lost everything? And if they became billionaires? Everything is about conviction, faith, and education. Don't tie material wealth to a spiritual connection.

Find a home in a person. A pillar. Someone who isn't afraid to protect you. Someone who will share everything, even the little they have. Someone who is cultured, open-minded, because life together is built by both partners. Money is important, but it's not everything. What we want is someone ambitious, who fights with dignity, no matter how much they earn.
This reflection goes much deeper. With all due respect to men, there's a lack of reflection that is sometimes scary. Why? Because yes, finances can be a mental barrier for them., Do you talk about inferiority complex? It's something many, if not all, men struggle with. For them, providing financially is a way of keeping control, of maintaining their status in our eyes. But no! We don't want that anymore.

This is the 21st century. Women can make as much money, if not more, than their partners. And that's a problem. But why? We didn't choose to be born into a wealthy family. But we chose our partner. We chose our career. If we're with you, gentlemen, regardless of our standard of living or social background, it's out of conviction. We chose to be here, with you.
So, please, put aside your insecurities, stop thinking that everything revolves around money. Many women provide for their households. And when it comes to children, it's often mom's money that's spent on them. Some women are their husband's ATM, not the other way around.
Gentlemen, I say to you: concentrate on what really matters.

Your partner's education, values and life experience. Ask yourself: if you had a daughter, would you want her to be like your wife? If the answer is no, change your partner. Because money is beautiful, but it's ephemeral. Even if I lost it all tomorrow, I wouldn't be afraid, because I know where I came from and how I got there. I'll always find a way to start again, because I'm the one who built it all.
Gentlemen, free yourselves from this inferiority complex. Don't limit your brain like you limit your credit card. The highest credit limit has a limit, so don't limit your minds. True wealth comes from the heart. Capitalism is an economic system, not a way of life.

                                         -TheShine