I <3 Islam *on hold*

The Second Glace

Bismillah

In the name of Allah

I'm currently using an iPad to upload stories so I can't really bold anything to create emphasis but by Allah's hope I can get the message across.

So usually I have a short story that hits the nail on the head on what I'm trying to say but for now, just hear out my rambling.

I think if not everyone then 99% of people have been a victim of 'the second glance' which is basically looking at a man or a woman of whom you are not married to with lust. I call it the second glance because when you look at someone for the first time, it's not necessarily intentionally, but when you look the second time, this is when you notice details about them that make them attractive.

Now when a girl and a boy become 'exclusive' with their relationship and date, they are committing adultery, now from communicating with Muslims all over the world, I can sum up that most of them didn't know that relations out of marriage were haraam (prohibited in Islam).

Well it is, it is taught that you are suppose to lower your gaze in the presence of a stranger, one you can marry.

Now tell me, why would you use Allah's blessings to disobey him? You are given a beautiful eyesight and you use it to lust over someone you are not married to.

If the guy or the girl you are dating can cheat on Allah, do you think they will be faithful to you?

If Allah has disapproved relations before marriage between a guy and a girl but you do it any way, will there be blessings in that relationship? Will there be bliss and goodness in something that is prohibited?

Surely Allah does not approve of certain acts because he knows everything, he knows that there will be fault in that relationship.

I spoke to one girl from Saudi Arabia, and we started talking about guys in Saudi, and out of pure curiosity if she dates. She answered positively and I'll assume my jaw dropped because she asked me what was wrong, when I told her, the act she was doing was forbidden in the Quran, she stated that the Quran was written thousands of centuries ago, so dating wasn't practiced.

This girl was born and raised in the same city the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) rested and she doubts Allah's knowledge. May Allah forgive her and bless her abundantly.

Girls and boys going out together, thinking they will tie the knot when they are of age. What is the point dating someone for six years, doing everything with them and then getting married? What will be special? A document saying that you two are officially together?

That's how marriages turn sour these days, a couple goes so far as sleeping together and moving in and then they get married. So what? There is no special 'first night' as they slept together daily. Moving in wont change anything. And then after a few months of marriage, problems stir, someone's cheating, abuse, hatred and worst of all boredom!

If a marriage started off on the wrong foot because a couple was in haraam acts, obviously things won't go in their way. But Allah knows best.

The best way to avoid temptation is to fast. Don't eat throughout the day with the intention that Satan can leave your thoughts. Now I really only know about dating from my friends because that is one bridge I'd prefer not to cross so all I can say is guard yourself from committing haraam acts in dating or going out.

Wait till he puts a ring on it. But even then, if it's an engagement ring don't run a muck with your fiancé, as the marriage is still not complete. Wait till your wedding day, kiss someone special, not someone who's name you'll forget by the time you turn fifty.

And yes some of you are probably reading this, thinking 'Oh Islam is such a harsh religion, I have to marry a complete stranger'. No, Islam encourages you to marry someone you like. Not anyone who walks through the door.

One more thing on this topic, I don't think I will ever forget. "Love comes after marriage, before that, it's called infatuation" - my father.

Now, I want you to think about that and about this "How many hearts of a Muslim will break, as dating doesn't take place? How can you love someone if you don't have that love for your creator"

That is really all I can think of about love and relationships for now!

~OOO~

Protection without Bodyguard

Surah Fatiha protects one from the anger of Allah.



Surah Yaseen protects one from the thirst of the Day of Judgment.



Surah Waqi'ah protects one from poverty and starvation.



Surah Mulk protects one from the punishment of the grave.



Surah Kauthar protects one from the enmity of the enemy.



Surah Kafiroon protects one from Kufr at the time of death.



Surah Ikhlas protects one from hypocrisy.



Surah Falaq protects one from calamities.



Surah Naas protects one from evil thoughts.

I'm not sure if I have posted the above before but I love the baseline so much because it is so true. And I actually did this because it was demanded for by couple of people who private messaged me, I'd like to say that no it is not rude to request a topic because I would be more then happy to cover a chapter with it, if Allah wills.

It was suggested that I do a chapter on my Islam like how I keep on deen and the Ummrah trip I went for in February but I'm not so sure... If you would like me to cover that let me know please, thank you and JazakAllah.

May Allah shower you with blessings and mercy, may you find ease in all your work.

Ameen.