An NT child doesn't understand why her parents don't 'get' her. The Aspie parent doesn't understand why his child is so solemn and sad all of the time. He begins to exclude her and avoid her more and more, because it is his nature to avoid things that cause him discomfort. Her emotions cause him discomfort. Aspie parents don't see the sense in socializing their child, and so they isolate them instead. The only engaging environment that the child has left to turn to in the absence of friends and family is books, writing, video games, and other solitary activities.
Aspies are often miserly with money. An NT child is then given hand-me-down clothes and gifts from a secondhand store. Aspie parents will often save money on doctor bills by using homeopathic medicines and preventatives instead. The child might suffer through some health problems due to lack of medical treatment. The child might also be teased and bullied in school for wearing secondhand clothing.
An NT child must put up with his parents droning on and on about themselves. Aspies have limited interests, and they are most often obsessions of the Aspie. He or she will spend their days talking about their hobby or their passion to others. They lose interest when someone changes the subject, as in the case of an NT child trying to share some interest of their own. An Aspie parent often talks at his NT child, rather than having a mutually satisfying conversation. If the NT child tires of the Aspie parent's hobby or conversation, the parent and child might end up in a cycle of not speaking at all.
An NT child who is living in a home with an Aspie might use escapism and dissociation to separate themselves from the Aspie's inability to emotionally validate them or to listen to their own ideas. The NT child might become severely narcissistic in trying to become whatever it is that the Aspie wants him to be in order to fit into the family and attune to his parents. He spends the rest of his life thinking that he must attune to others, rather than having a mutually satisfying and reciprocal relationship with them. He becomes drained emotionally and physically, and he feels as though his energy levels are depleted through his dysfunctional relations with others.
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Quirky, Eccentric Parents
Non-FictionAre your parents quirky, eccentric or absent-minded? Do they seem self-absorbed, neglectful, rude, critical or stubborn? Are they socially awkward, avoidant, and overly protective? Do you sometimes feel as though your parents don't 'get' you at a...
