A neurotypical can begin to find the world a very confusing and unwelcome place just like an Aspie can over the course of their life. An NT who begins a life with an Aspie can feel abused and ignored in a relationship with an Aspie. Aspies can be insensitive and emotionally unavailable just purely due to their mindblindness and their inability to read facial expressions or social cues. An Aspie and an NT often seemingly speak different languages altogether. An NT might say something to an Aspie 6 different ways, the but Aspie never understands fully what the NT is saying.
An Aspie will feel abused by their NT partner in many ways also. The Aspie wants time alone and wants to incessantly share their few interests with their partner. The NT partner might feel as though the Aspie is talking at her instead of talking to her. She might tire of indulging in the same old activities time and again because of the Aspie's hobbies, which are more like obsessions. The Aspie may feel abused by their partner not taking an interest in the things that they are passionate about. They might lack the ability to connect with their partner intimately because their priorities are different from a neurotypical's as pertains to sexual relations and emotional intimacy.
An NT partner will often feel as though they are pulling all of the weight in a relationship with an Aspie. The Aspie might not be good with finances, and so the NT is always stepping in to bail them out. The Aspie might struggle to change routines. The Aspie might be obsessive about repetitive chores, or might collect or hoard physical and tangible things. An Aspie might also obsessively hoard electronic media, such as movies, video games, software music, porn and photos of beautiful things. This is especially true in Aspies with careers in the computer field.
Aspies enjoy spending a majority of their time by themselves and doing repetitive things. They will seem obsessive and compulsive with the activities that they enjoy. They might be homebodies, and their partners may complain that the Aspie doesn't like to leave the house for long periods of time. Aspies are often socially awkward, missing cues and hints that their partner might be giving them. An NT partner may try to drop hints that they wish to have sex with an Aspie, and the Aspie will often miss these signs.
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