Life

I Forgive You.

Three words, eleven letters, yet so hard to say.

Very often it is mistaken that forgiving someone is a sign of weakness. But it is not. It takes a lot to forgive. Because very often the scars people leave behind on us have a lasting effect on our lives. And sometimes they even cause a significant amount of damage to our lives. But every single scar a person gives you teaches you a lesson. A lesson that you will be so greatfull to have learnt ten years down the line when you will become a fully mature, beautiful person. Many people carry emotional scars from their past and keep living in this constant struggle, hurting and hatred. To begin a healing process of the scar, one must decide to let go of any anger, bitterness, blame, resentment or hostility toward others or himself. The decision to be free, to experience and enjoy love, joy, peace or gentleness demands a release of any negative memories.

Very often we look for rational explanations and logical reasoning in our head for forgiving or not forgiving people. Basing our thinking and emotions on the circumstances of what had happen, we try to gauge the amount of damage that has been caused to us by the other person and try to decide weather or not the person should be forgiven. We try to comprehend if the damage done is forgettable or not. And so does every human. Our brains were made that way. We try to rationalize every thing and every situation and  react accordingly.

But to be able to forget all our theories, all our reasoning and rationalization and forgive others for what they have done is a difficult thing to do. Anyone can hold a grudge. But when you forgive,  you release yourself from a painful burden. Because even though hatred is one of the fundamental human emotions, we find ourselves constantly trying to resolve our inner battles and wanting to heal. And healing is an entire process. It just can't happen in a day or two. There are a lot of different stages of healing and forgiveness is one of them. Forgiveness heals scars inflicted on you by the people . You can now forget that person and let all of it go. And forgiving someone does not mean that whatever happen, you're now cool with it or you can still get back to normal with the other person. Forgiveness just simply means that you have made peace with the pain and you are ready to let it go and set yourself free from the agony of still clinging on to something.  

Forgiveness is the attitude of a strong person. Those who remain conceited and refuse to forgive are the weaker ones. You can only forgive someone if you have the courage to accept the pain and make peace with it. When you can let go of whatever has happend and move on, it means that you are wise enough to set your prisoner free and make peace with it. Because when you looked within yourself, you found enough courage and power to forgive someone. You found enough power to control your emotions and prevent them from getting the best of you while making a decision. You controlled yourself, picked yourself up and dusted away the dirt.  And only after forgiving a person you will see that you had never found yourself so clean and at peace.