Half The Deen

For the In Laws

To all the Married Brothers out there

Husbands: Do not let your parents or siblings, especially your mother and sisters, run or ruin your marriage.

Before you got married your sisters enjoyed a temporary privileged closeness and access to you and that was alright.

Now that you're married your wife takes priority over everyone including your sisters, regardless of how close they've been to you.

Your sisters must respect your marriage and your wife's position, and you must protect and defend your wife's position, dignity and respect by prioritizing her above your sisters.

You and wife are one. Never make decisions alone with your siblings or sisters without involving your wife..

Maintain a balance between your wife n your family members...

I am a sister too, but as sisters we should help and support our sister in laws to make a healthy relationship with us and the rest of the family.

Don't be the sisters that run and ruin ur brothers marriages, remember that Allah watches all and what u did to someone else will definitely come back to you either directly or through ur daughters. Remember Allah is the JUST, so do not take that for granted.

Getting jealous of ur sister in law and accusing her of the changes that you see in ur brother after marriage is a foolish thing yet as women we fall into Satan's trap nd do just that, we need to understand and realize that marriage brings with it a set of responsibilities and as such men change, it's not the wife that changed him but the added responsibility of a family and of a brighter future ahead.

Instead of being jealous focus ur attention on ur brothers happiness, she makes him happy, that's all that matters, she looks after him and rest content that after you get married and go to ur home, you would have to worry about him a little less, focus on making her a great daughter in law, help around, be her support in the new family she has come into, be respectful because believe me, after you get married you will worry sooo much less about all the people u have left behind, because you would know that someone will take care of them, even if not as much as u would have but still they would be there.

However, she has her rights too, do not place hopeless hopes on a person who is just human.
Advice your mother to be as gentle with ur sister in law as possible, because again karma is real, Allah taala is the most JUST, and kindness only begets kindness remember that.

For wife's, yes he might prioritize them sometimes, and want not, but try to understand that he grew up with them, like how you grew up with ur siblings and mother. You might have left them for him and prioritized him over them, but dearest sisters, look at your brother, men are very immature creations, and also they have a spot for their mother and sisters, some men have tiny spots some have big ones and their are some fools who have none, with time your bond with him will grow stronger too so till then show sabr yet help him understand your position, and help him juggle between everyone.

I remember the initial days of my marriage my husband used to get sooo frustrated and say "I sometimes think that I have four wives, u, my mom, my sister nd my grand mother everyone keeps bickering about how I dont give enough time." Lol

Every relationship needs sabr and understanding and two people who really want to be with each other and it'll all work out with Allah's help. Oh and duas loads and loads of Duas. :)