The Wedding Verses

Should I Get Married?

Have you ever wondered should I get married? What does the Bible say?

Firstly whose idea was marriage?

Genesis 1-2 we see that God created Adam and he gave him meaningful work to do. Adam was also had a great relationship to God, talking with him, being with him. Yet even so, in Genesis 2:18 God recognized that Adam needed to have a human companion, a relationship with someone like him, who could help him with the work. So he created Eve and Adam and Eve were married. God's words were, "It is not good for the man to be alone". 

So marriage is God's idea, and he sees it as a good thing.

Secondly, does that mean that everyone should get married?

Jesus said that some people will remain single for the sake of God's kingdom:

He said to them, "Not everyone can accept this statement, except those to whom it has been given. For there are some eunuchs who were that way from birth, and some who were made eunuchs by others, and some who became eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who is able to accept this should accept it."Matt 19:11-12 (NET).

Paul in his first letter to the Corinthians says: 

But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband 1 Cor 7: 2 (ESV).

To the unmarried and widows I say that it is best for them to remain as I am. But if they do not have self-control, let them get married. For it is better to marry than to burn with sexual desire.  Corinthians 7:8-9 (NET).

In whatever situation someone was called, brothers and sisters, let him remain in it with God. With regard to the question about people who have never married, I have no command from the Lord, but I give my opinion as one shown mercy by the Lord to be trustworthy. Because of the impending crisis I think it best for you to remain as you are. The one bound to a wife should not seek divorce. The one released from a wife should not seek marriage. But if you marry, you have not sinned. And if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face difficult circumstances, and I am trying to spare you such problems. 1 Cor 7:24-28.

And I want you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord.  But a married man is concerned about the things of the world, how to please his wife and he is divided. An unmarried woman or a virgin is concerned about the things of the Lord, to be holy both in body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the things of the world, how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place a limitation on you, but so that without distraction you may give notable and constant service to the Lord. If anyone thinks he is acting inappropriately toward his virgin, if she is past the bloom of youth and it seems necessary, he should do what he wishes; he does not sin. Let them marry.  But the man who is firm in his commitment, and is under no necessity but has control over his will, and has decided in his own mind to keep his own virgin, does well. So then, the one who marries his own virgin does well, but the one who does not, does better. A wife is bound as long as her husband is living. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes (only someone in the Lord). But in my opinion, she will be happier if she remains as she is – and I think that I too have the Spirit of God! 1 Cor 7:32-40 (NET).

Questions for consideration

Am I burning with sexual desire and lack self-control?

Do I feel that it is necessary that I get married?

Is the person I am wanting to marry 'someone in the Lord'?

Do I have a desire to marry?

Have I submitted my desire to marry to God? If so, has the desire gone away?

Author's Note: Is there any other Scriptures I should add to this list? Feel free to add them below. Comments and votes are welcome.