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10 Useful Steps To Move On From A Relationship

1. Clear your baggage. Acknowledge,
accept and let go of your feelings
With every broken relationship comes baggage.

The longer and more intense your
relationship is, the more baggage you'd have
accumulated. The length of time me and G were
in close, active communication was about 2.5~3
years in total. Not very long compared to others,
yet there was so much baggage to be cleared in
my head! If your relationship was longer, I can
imagine there must be a lot more for you to deal
with.

Our baggage will be a mixture of sadness, regret,
hope, wistfulness, melancholy, disappointment . If
the relationship was intense, your baggage will
probably include hate, grief, anger, fear, shame
and other deeper emotions. It's natural to feel
these. Whatever the emotion is, open yourself to
the emotion fully. This means if you hate the
person, feel that hatred. If you feel sad, soak in
your sadness. If you feel the need to grief, then
please grief. Cry if need be. Take time out for
yourself to process these feelings. Don't block
them away. Embrace them and accept them.
Don't bottle them in, because as we all know
they will explode in the future when least
expected. You might have heard of people who
claim to have moved on by shutting off /
avoiding their emotions altogether. They may feel
like they have moved on, but what's really
happening is the issue has just become so
deeply buried that it doesn't cause any
immediate reaction. It's like having a cut that is
healed on the surface, but still has impurities
underneath the scar. To complete the cleansing
process, all the dirt has to be cleansed. To do so
you need to first acknowledge and accept your
feelings .

As you connect with these emotions, slowly let
them go . Feel them, understand the source, then
release them. Some suggestions would be to
talk to a good friend, journaling or meditation.
Sleeping helps to clear mental baggage too –
but just be conscious that you don't turn to
sleep as a source of escapism .