boy meets girl

Part VI

Off ko sa trabaho ngayon.
Two years na ding laging nasa tabi ko si Caleb.
Sana di siya magsawa.

Girls tambay us? Miss you girls text ko kay Gek,Shea, Ivy at Joyvel.

Habang nag-iintay sa reply nila nagbukas ako ng tv at ang nabuksan ko ay ang segment ni Joshua Kho kung saan guest niya si Mr. Ricardo Bongato.

HOW MANY RELATIONSHIPS HAVE YOU BEEN THROUGH? tanong ni Kho.

"Madami, kasi focused ka sa wants! For example you met a girl, nagustuhan mo, physically, how she talks, how she entertains, but deep inside alam mo na di siya ang kailangan mo. It turns out na may nakita ka na di mo gusto sa kanya, vice versa. Eventually mag die-down yung relationship. Yung sister ng bestfriend ko nagka impact talaga sa akin. Nakikita ko sister niya kase lagi akong nasa bahay nila at naging good friends kami. I gave her gifts during Christmas and Valentines. Nagkaroon kami ng mutual understanding, pero hindi nag workout kasi yung purpose at intentions ko ay hindi clear. Naging selfish at very immature kami to the point na we compare ourselves to other people. We broke up later. "sagot ni Bongato.

ANO NARAMDAMAN MO NUNG BREAK UP? HOW DID YOU PICKED YOURSELF UP?

"Nawala ang sense of significance ko, kasi yung feeling na lagi kang kasama, tapos biglang inalis. In a week, wala na kaming communication agad. As a person you would look immediately for a way out and to mend yung hurt. Naghanap ako ng kaibigan at nag-iinom na ako. May regret pa na... Ok pa sana e, pero wala na. "

He continued. Pero, nandun si God. He used people to reach out to me- small group, discipleship training sa church at mentors din. He really helped me recover. Despite of all the failures. God remains faithful. My family made sure that I would feel accepted and loved. 1 Corinthians 13:13 :"And now these three remain : faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. ",sustained me. During my healing period nakilala ko talaga si God,  and He gradually filled the void from the break-up. Through the encouragements ng mga ka-small groups ko, healing came and I was able to move on.

KAMUSTA JOURNEY MO WITH YHE, THE ONE GOD HAS PREPARED FOR YOU?

"First we would see each other as friends, then I began to pray for her- "Lord I really would love to know this person more. "I told her how I felt about her, in a very straight forward way. Then, I started to court her. Many times na may conflict kame, I learned that we have all sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Pero grace changes everything and that God would fill everything that you need. We need to guard our heart and be accountable to others.

I appreciate this great relationship, pero hindi okay agad agad. When we encounter problems I always remind her that "WE is greater than You and Me. We: being God, Yhe and Me. We stronger together. When we face problems it's always Me, but that it should be WE. I am reminded of Galatians 5:22-23,the Fruit of the Holy Spirit yun ang need ko sa relationship namin, like peace and self-control.

WHAT'S YOUR ADVICE FOR THE BROKENHEARTED?

"This too shall pass.The grace of God will change everything. You need to be in a position where you are not dependent on a single person only. Join a support group where you will experience the love of God and look for opportunity to share His love."

So thank you Mr. Bongato and we hope that this would not be the last time you'll be seen here in my show.

I hope for it too Kho. Thank you.

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Siguro ito na yung tamang panahon para sa amin ni Caleb pwede na siguro kame may confirmation na mula kay Lord.

I need to meet Caleb as soon as possible. hihi

But for now I'll spend time with my girls.