Uplifting Quotes and Expiriences

The Right Friends

Sometimes it's really hard to find that perfect group of friends for you. You may be stuck in a bad situation that you seemingly can't escape. Or, you may just be with the people you hang out with for popularity or for some sort of reputation.

The thing is, you need to find people who are good for you. They'll be good examples, nice to you, actually care for you, and take your feelings seriously. 

From my sixth grade year to this year, I was often told I was in an abusive friendship. I didn't see it that way at first, but as time went on, I saw it as well. She would call me names, get mad at me for dumb, or no reason, say bad things about people I cared about, made me feel unimportant, and dragged me away from people I was once close to.

I would often come home crying and then the next day see her as a great friend. It wasn't healthy. I only stayed in that friendship for as long as I did because I was scared for whoever her new friend would be. I didn't want anyone to go through the same crap as I did. But, a bubble can only last so long before it pops.Last year, I decided it was worth the risk. I couldn't handle it anymore.

And I did it at the perfect time. She got mad at me, and instead of feeling guilty and asking for forgiveness, I let her pout and didn't talk. A few days later I told her that I was done, and that she had grow up if she was going to keep any future friends. Just.. a little bit nicer than that.

She still has a lot to learn, but she'll get it eventually I hope. I feel like ending the friendship helped both of us. 

Now, I'm with friends who actually care about my feelings and love me for who I am. I want that for you as well. So if you are checking this because you're nervous about leaving a friendship or that you don't have the right friends, then please take my advice. Take that leap of faith and do what you need to keep yourself safe and happy. 

1. "A true friend is someone you can disagree with and still remain friends. If not, they weren't true friends in the first place."

2. "You don't lose friends, you just learn who your real friends are."

3. "Friendship isn't about who you've known the longest. It's about who walked into your life and said, "I'm here for you" and proved it."

4. "Only those who care about you can hear you when you're quiet."

5. "Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher." -Oprah Winfrey